Question about baby momma/dadies

I have a soon to be 3 year old son by another woman but we are no longer together and on the weekend that I have him she checks up on him and I do the same with he is with her. VERY long story short I had to take her to court for just to see my son. my current gf has 2 k**s by her pervious BF he doesn't care about then nor does he check on them to see how they are doing or anything. Her philosophy is if they aren't together then she doesn't want to see them no matter if he is taking care of his k**s or not. Here is where the problem comes into play. she gets mad saying that i shoudn't be texting some random women when im with her. (1) she isn't some ramdon female we have a k**(2) the only reason that we even keep in touch is because of our son. They went to the beach this past week because they were on spring break and his mom texted me pics of my son the beach and other pics of him. And my gf got mad at me because I texted her back asking his how my son was doing and told her to tell him i said hey. Keep in mind his mom d**g my name through the mud and other stuff and i forgave her and her family because life is too short to hold grudges. I want yall's opinion from the men/women if im wrong or not? And i will be the first person to admit when im wrong if im wrong

Published by bushwick

7 years ago

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garnercouple 3 years ago

Sounds like your gf needs to back off

elhotman 4 years ago

to bushwick : Good for you Bro. I hope you meet some one worthy of not just a good man but good father also. I also hope all is good with your son, his mom and her new relationship. Would like to chat more about this and my situation privately if ok with you.

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elhotman 4 years ago

to bushwick : Wow! I am glad you dodged that bullet. I was going to add that as a last result, she does not see things your way to get away from her but just assumed that you were with her and even her children because you saw some real value in her worth trying to make it work. But yeah, totally agree with you. As if the craziness was not enough, she got the police involved? Anytime a woman gets the law involved in your relationship, it is definitely time to sever them ties, immediately!

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talrose 4 years ago

to elhotman : Lol, that comment was three years ago. Didn’t even remember it but still feel the same

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bushwick Publisher 4 years ago

to elhotman : Thanks but I put her in the wind. It was hard get rid of her but I'm glad she's gone because she's not worth the trouble

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bushwick Publisher 4 years ago

to elhotman : No she is no way a good woman. Not only did she lie and say she was pregnant but she also went to the cops saying that I put my hands on her. The only reason I didn't go to jail or was the cop she went to wanted the hear both sides of the story on what really happened. He knew she was lying because she kept changing her story. No the reason I was with her is because I was very foolish. She is 5min past crazy and I feel sorry for the next man who she dates. its like the old saying goes....If you see a very sexy woman that single she single for a reason. It makes sense now

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elhotman 4 years ago

to talrose : Easy there. She might be a good woman. That is why he is with her and her two kids. He must see something in her he values. She may just need some reassurance and transparency. May even feel better if she is included. These things are very fragile and take time,patience and understanding to work out.

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elhotman 4 years ago

to pussyboy1112222 : Awesome! Good for you.

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elhotman 4 years ago

You are in a hard position because you get attacked from your girl for caring and probably get it from your ex if you appear not to care. If you really love your girlfriend do everything you can to reassure her that you love and care for her and will not do anything to hurt her. Keep every interaction with your ex open so that your girl can see the transparency. Make sure to make her aware of every interaction that happens when she is not around. Keep up being a great father. Never stop that. This is going to be hard but you are the man and for the sake of a happy ending, you are to have to bare the brunt of some attacks and pain. Stay the course. If at all possible have a sit dow with both parties, her man included. Let it be known that you are four adults and the priority is the mental and physical health of all the children involved. Let it be known to your and her significant other that there is nothing funny going on and you want to turn an ugly situation into something beautiful and beneficial for all. It may not happen immediately and you may need to have several more sit downs after this. Things can get off course from your plans and revisiting your agreement to work together is always a good idea.
this has work so well for me to where my son’s mother takes my girls for the day or weekend at times. We also all go out to dinner on certain occasions, like my son’s birthday our the holidays. I really pray this all has already worked out for you or will in the future. I am 50 years old and my wife and I been through just about everything. We have been together for many years and have never been happier. Feel free to ask my about anything. Take care Bro and thank you for being a great father. You know we as a people need that.

elhotman 4 years ago

Wow. Tough situation Bro. I see this was a long time ago so let me first say I pray all is better now for the child, first of all, but for everyone in volver.
I went through the same thing. A bit different but I will not bore you with the details unless you really want to chat about it. Fortunately we are all in a really good place now and my wife and I are really good friends with my son’s mom and her husband. This is the only reason I feel qualified to comment.

bushwick Publisher 7 years ago

to pussyboy1112222 : Thanks and congrats your daughter getting her phd. I agree with you man kids first no matter what

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I have raised my daughter since she was three years old. Her mother brought her to me and said you want her here she is. The first two weeks I thought I wpold loose my mind. I had a lot of help from my family thank God. 27 years later she is getting her Phd. I went through hell keeping her.
I don't understand how a man doesn't want to be with HIS children. Now I have 2 grandsons A daughter getting a Phd. I'm proud of her. I did what a man is supposed to do. KIDS FIRST

bushwick Publisher 7 years ago

to hheellss : Thank you......on the weekends he is with his mom i text her to see how he is doing and vice versa. But she swears something is going on that we are sill messing around. I told her if i wanted her i would still be with her and the only thing that i want from her is my son that it. Im the same as you its strictly about the kids and im gonna keep in contact with her about my son until he is old enough to talk on the phone or text me back becasue thats what good dad/moms supposed to do

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hheellss 7 years ago

Not wrong at all , I get the same nonsense from my girlfriend when I communicate with my ex wife and it's always strictly about the kids.

matureBBWlover00 7 years ago

Your son is #1, and any decent person should understand that. Your son needs you in his life, end of story. You are correct to be there for your son. Do not let anyone tell you otherwise.

talrose 7 years ago

I say get rid of the girlfriend. She is immature and bitter. You should be involved with your child always, not just on the weekend that he is with you. Fuck that bitter bitch. That is why some of us are screwed n the head today, because of women like your girlfriend. Keep doing what you have been doing.

biwhitemale 7 years ago

Sounds as if she is mad at the father of her kids and you are the one that is there to take it out on. She sees you being concerned and she is mad at him for not being concerned. My advice is to not argue with her, you cannot argue if you refuse to participate. Listen to what she says but when she says you should not text her reply, she is the mother of my son.

juicypeach 7 years ago

You are not wrong at all. She needs to understand you want to be a good father and involved in your child's life. She probably is a little insecure, thinking ya are talking about other things. You have to show her it's only about your son, nothing more. If she can't accept that, then maybe she isn't the one. Make it relatable. Your trying to be the father her sons wish they had....good luck.

bushwick Publisher 7 years ago

to dmt2012 : I did talk to her about it....I even told her she could look at our convo to see what we were talking about to see its nothing sexual about our convo's. she was like no i dont want to see it becasue i could have deleted parts of the convo where we were talking about something other then my son

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dmt2012 7 years ago

no you're not in the wrong you're gf needs to realize you have a son and that nothing is going on with your ex you just wanna check up on him i think some of these men and women today are too clingy and controlling she needs to accept your son comes first but you are not wrong at all about this you should talk to her about this hun if it is bothering you