Why does a straight guy get turned on by t-girls?

I was chatting with a young man recently on xHamster. I was telling him that despite being straight, pics or videos of young men dressed in women's clothing could be a real turn on for me.

He suggested that any man who would go for a crossdresser isn't really straight.

I disagreed with him then, and I still do. First, I don't like labels. But if you had to label me, I think most people would call me straight. I'm married, and I've never had any sort of sexual encounter with a male.

But I've long had an interest in t-girls and ladyboys, at least in videos and on the Internet. Does that make me gay? Or bi? Or pan-sexual? Or bi-curious? I don't think so.

Here's a photo that gets me especially hot:

http://xhamster.com/photos/view/2689897-44355850.html

So why does this turn me on? I got to thinking about it, and here's what I came up with.

Like millions of other teenagers, I used to dress up in my mother's clothes. Panties, bras, and especially slips, which still today I find an extremely erotic garment. Dresses and blouses too. No wig, no makeup, no jewelry, no perfume, just the basics. I could never come even close to being passable, but the feeling of those soft, lacy panties, the bra stuffed with socks, and that smooth, silky slip used to make me so hard!

So when I see a young man in stockings and a skirt, like in the photo, and when it gives me an erection, I think it brings back old memories, old sensations.

Now if I weren't happily married, and if I found myself in a bedroom with that young man, dressed in that skirt and those stockings, looking cute and feminine, would I want to have sex with him? Oral sex, yes I would, me on him and then him on me. I'm not into anal, but I think trading blowjobs would be amazing!

So what do you think? Does that make me gay, or bi, or what?

I think it just makes me, me!




Published by rickkink
11 years ago
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jud13
jud13 3 years ago
I am not sure it matters how you label yourself or others label you.  Sexuality is a spectrum and we are all in different places along it.  I like women mostly but also get turned on my shemales, especially if they have small cocks and smaller tits. I do sometimes get turned on by cocks being tormented with CBT but tend not to find mens bodies a turn on. However, I do not like others giving me CBT, so only do it to myself. as and when the mood takes me.  I have never had a gay encounter and have only kissed a post op shemale a couple of times and felt her silicone tits,on a couple of dates with her, she was a sub and I am top. I think if she had kept her cock and balls I might have explored more but this never happened.
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likesitwantsit 5 years ago
I understand where your cumming from (pun intended)  I being straight would love to suck and be fucked by a large fat cock from a shemale
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badeye
badeye 5 years ago
I Guess Im somewhere in the Middle I LOVE Seeing SheMale Porn I LOVE seeing their Cocks and Ass Pussy and would NEVER think of doing it with a Plain Man But The thoughts of What I would LOVE to do with a T-Girl Really Drive me Crazy with Lust:smile:
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cutnshaved1
Thanks for sharing about when you used to dress in women's clothes as a child, its the experimental stage, when we are just trying on sex for the first time, just to see how something "fits", like a changing room in the clothing store.
I developed a fetish for small cocks as a child from going nude with other boys at a very early age, pre-teen if I can say that on here, but we all had tiny dicks back then and we would go to the woods and strip and skinny-dip, which eventually led to experimentation. We would touch each other, then we would try sucking each other's tiny dicks.
I'm married now and very attracted to mature women, but I still like to see other men with small dicks, not just because I have one myself, but I find them sexually attractive, especially on shemales and teenage boys who are completely shaven.
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FrenchTS-LDB-Addict
FrenchTS-LDB-Addict 10 years ago
I think that you are right. I love WOMEN, i'm sure, but i love feminine Shemales and femenine CD/FemBoy. I had some experiences with Shemales and it was fantastic, wonderful....
I hope that you can try soon and I think that you will not regret.
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asburymike 10 years ago
How did I find myself back on this thread? Love gurls and cross dressers.... In my fantasies
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redclay56
redclay56 10 years ago
I think it's an indefinable characteristic. There are billions of people on earth who feel like they're 100% one thing or another, and then there are people like us who kind of merge into the other lane and blur the distinctions. My thinking about my sexuality has changed considerably in the past 5-10 years, but I also understand that my feelings were always there, I just wouldn't acknowledge those feelings and come to terms with them. It's an endlessly fascinating subject.
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jeremyjay2
I would say that the sight of a T-girl can turn on a straight man because of the fact that you (the straight male) are seeing someone who is trying to commit to sexual feminization in which the role of serving another male sexually would be a seemingly ultimate fulfillment of their desires to experience the opposite gender, and you ( the straight male) know that you can fill that role, and give a T-girl the pleasure and fulfillment that another (straight) woman might not crave.
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luvthatcreampie 11 years ago
I AGREE
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rickkink Publisher 11 years ago
to teetime5 : Your "long line" theory mirrors my thoughts exactly. I don't think anyone is 100% straight or 100% gay, and I've read that the most vocal "anti-gay" people have the strongest tendencies toward being gay. They hate that in themselves, and project that hate on gays.
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teetime5
teetime5 11 years ago
"Think of sexuality as a long line. At one end of the line are the people who are 100% Gay and at the other end of the line are people who are 100% straight. Now somewhere in between these extremes are the rest of us, nearer to one end or the other, and through life we may move about on this line."..
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teetime5
teetime5 11 years ago
I also love feminine ts. I've always thought that we all love our own cocks and would suck ourselves if we could. A lovely fem ts with a fun personality gives us the opportunity to do it.
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asburymike 11 years ago
I do think.... And a hot woman at that!...smile
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rickkink Publisher 11 years ago
to asburymike : Thanks for the comment. I actually think that lusting after attractive, feminine trannies, ladyboys, even crossdressers my reinforce one's heterosexuality. I like women, and if someone looks like a woman, sounds like a woman, smells like a woman, then as far as I'm concerned, she's a woman. If she happens to have a cock, then she's a woman with a cock.

Doncha think?
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asburymike 11 years ago
If it makes you gay...I think I'm there too... I could have written what you did...except not nearly as well
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LapperOfLabia
LapperOfLabia 11 years ago
I agree with darquepervert's points as well.

Why I dress? Love the variety, weight, cuts, and colors that I get to play with that men's "fashion" never even comes close to. I get to embrace a feminine side that I have that most guys would never dare to even look into.

Frankly, it's made me a more honest and objective person, and I can really feel the change, as I'm only a few years new to this. Hit me like a ton of bricks. Never even plaayed around with it in earlier years.
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gazo1954 11 years ago
I enjoy seeing men dressed in womens clothing and I love seeing women (t-girls) with big hard cocks. I like wearing panties and dressing myself. I don't consider myself gay but I'm bi. while I love sucking cock I still need pussy
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catmando2 11 years ago
I think darquepervert summed it up best for me. I like feminine t-girls/trannys (the more passable the better), and not much at all those who are masculine. Also, virtually always prefer t-girls/trannys/shemales/ladyboys with a small penis, and cut. Big or long cocks, and those uncut are a turnoff.

What's odd about this is feminine gay men ("swishers") totally turn me off in "real life." Weird huh? And in real life dykish lesbians turn me off, yet I can sometimes get into some of the porn by mannish/manly/dykish lesbian actresses cavorting with a feminine lesbian. But I'm off topic now. Sorry.
As for me, I've always been "straight" (possible exceptions being childhood play), although I fantasize about being with both t-girls/trannys/etc. and other "straight" guys. Not sure what that "makes" me.
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istrokedaily
istrokedaily 11 years ago
I agree with most of what has already been said, but I'll just add my two cents. I think a lot of guys had some sort of guy-on-guy sexual experience when they were first discovering their own sexuality. Most of the time this seems to be jerking off with a friend to a stash of porn they found, or nowadays to internet porn. I think those early formative experiences really imprint on us and stay with us forever. I still think about the only cock I have ever sucked back when I was a kid (my jack off buddy from down the street).

Also, for me personally, having watched porn for almost 30 years now I have always tried to shoot my own load when the guy in the the video does. I'm not entirely sure why but I've always done it that way. I think that I have made a subconscious connection between my own sexual pleasure and masturbation-orgasms with seeing another cock. When you combine that cock fetishization with the beauty and form of a gorgeous shemale, it stands to reason that guys will love it.
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badeye
badeye 11 years ago
I never thought of it as Gay being with a TransGirl but I do think of it as gay the B4 pics B4 she puts on her wig and Make up I know its kinda screwwd up but that's just my mind:-) I would Never be with a guy but I fantasize so much about my T-Girl friends and porn stars here
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darquepervert 11 years ago
I've dwelled on the same question about myself.

Being straight (for the most part), I think it's two things:

1) An aesthetically pleasing female form, or the illusion thereof. A crossdresser or transsexual that looks and acts feminine and carries them self in a sensual way turns me on. The same would ring true for someone who is genetically female.

2) The idea of someone altering their physical appearance to please me as a man. Again, whether a genetic female or not, if someone is making a concerted effort to please me sexually, it's arousing.

What does that make you? Human. Same as me.
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daviea9 11 years ago
I hate boxes too. I think the "gay lobby" want to put people into boxes marked "straight" or "gay" or "bi" and somehow have engendered an attitude that any man who dares wear panties, never mind have a homo erotic adventure with another man, is automatically "gay". I don't think they will be happy until they "prove" that all men are gay. In fact I believe that all men have the ability and desire if the circumstances are right to enjoy sex with other men.
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rickkink Publisher 11 years ago
to hottnswhouston69 : And that's what attracts me to t-girls in general, I think... femininity. But I also know that a lot of crossdressers are straight, that is they only like sex with females. So I don't know that it's about pleasing their man. But trying for femininity, certainly.

I heard once that the difference between a crossdresser and a transsexual is that you'll find the crossdresser wearing a sequined gown, and the transsexual wearing jeans and a t-shirt!
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hottnswhouston69
hottnswhouston69 11 years ago
To me, it's the hyper femininity the cross dressers strive for.... the deep burning desire that they have to please their man. Women try to be their selves where CD & trans gurls try to be as feminine as possible.
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wmdavid
wmdavid 11 years ago
I think its being Normal. Sex with both Sexes, Very Normal.
I envy the Men who, Married Women who Approved of their Crossdressing and helped them improve the desire to dress as a woman.
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rickkink Publisher 11 years ago
Thanks for the comment. We tend to get hung up on labels, and I'm no different. I don't like labels. I read things from young folks, expressing their confusion over whether they're straight, bi, bi-curious, or whatever. My advice is forget the labels. I'm me, I like what I like, and I apologize to no one.

But I don't think I'd actually do it, because of my sworn commitment to my wife. Take that out of the equation, you're darn right I would!
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