A guide to prostate orgasms

A lot of people have asked about how to achieve anal orgasms, so here's a write-up about prostate stimulation. This is all just from my experience, and different people can require totally different things. I’ll be repeating this below, but it’s very important: prostates do not work like penises. If you’re not getting good sensations, you can’t fix the problem by going at it harder. Vibrations can work for some people, but I find that all they do is dull feeling and distract me.

First of all, my recommended toy for prostate masturbation is always the Aneros line (I use the helix syn). A lot of people get frustrated and give up on them, because they don’t properly read up on how to use them and because the Aneros doesn’t “do anything”. If you do want some additional reading, the aneros wiki has a nice guide as well.

My other recommended toy is the Njoy pure wand. It’s expensive, and you need to warm it up with hot water before use, but it’s very good for exploring sensations.

There’s essentially 2 types of prostate orgasm; with or without ejaculation. The ‘wet’ orgasm happens when you massage the prostate with deep, hard, strokes to force precum out of it. With enough volume, your body is 'tricked' into having an orgasm. This is a lot like a regular penis orgasm in many ways, though the sensations are felt internally.

A ‘dry’ orgasm is a very unique experience, and many people experience it without considering it to be a ‘real’ orgasm. The mechanism of a dry orgasm (from what I understand), involves filling the prostate with as much precum as it can handle. When you go without ejaculating, precum can build up in the prostate. This pressure is often felt as horniness, or a need to cum. By getting really horny and lightly tapping on the prostate, it produces precum without actually being drained, and replicates this need to cum.

Imagine trying to fill a sponge with water. You need to squeeze the sponge a little bit so that it can soak up more water, but squeezing too hard will force all the water out of it. A similar principle applies here, where you ‘trick’ the prostate into making more fluid than what’s slowly draining out of it.

When you do this for a while, something fucky happens, and you essentially experience a continuous orgasm (if you’re lucky/practiced). It has a lot in common with the female orgasm, in that you can go for multiple climaxes and it can cause full body spasms and moaning. This is, imo, the holy grail of prostate play.

Prostates don’t work the way penises do, where you can just aggressively stimulate it until you get results. Prostates only work when they’re swollen, which is an involuntary response to being really horny. If you’re not horny enough, they don’t feel good at all. Being horny enough is difficult. It’s not about getting an erection, you need to have the whole, proper state of mind and psychological sensitivity. Most people here are addicted to porn on some level, and taking a break from porn for 2 weeks or so is a good way to make sure that when you are looking at porn during the session, it works.

When you are stimulating a prostate, it’s a very subtle sensation. If you’re not paying careful attention, it’ll get drowned out by other things, like how uncomfortable or tired you are. I recommend against touching your dick, as it’s too distracting. Any method of stimulation that requires a lot of work on your part, can also be too distracting. I recommend against any toys that require you to hold them for this reason.

People who get frustrated will start pounding their prostate too hard. The goal of prostate stimulation is to build up precum in the prostate; the pressure of that fluid is what makes it feels good. Pressing too hard will squeeze the fluid right out of the prostate, potentially setting you back an hour of work. Press very lightly and slowly, then ease up at the first non-pleasurable feelings. Press it down a very small amount, then completely let off so it can ‘refill’, like a sponge. Sensations from the prostate can often be delayed, and going too quickly can make it difficult to tell what is and isn’t working.

If you’re not feeling anything from prostate stimulation, there's a good chance you haven’t practiced enough to identify what it feels like. While you’re really relaxed and horny, gently poke around and just think about what you’re feeling. You’ve probably looked up diagrams of where your prostate is, but your prostate can easily be off centre or in a slightly different position to the norm. It usually manifests as a light tingling feeling inside your tummy. If it feels like an itch you can't scratch, that's really good. Don't try and scratch it, keep tickling it and making it itchy. If you’re not feeling anything, don’t start pounding away.

If you do all this correctly, you should be feeling a pleasant tingling in your tummy that can (if you’re lucky) spread throughout your body. With practice, you can make this tingling reach a climax, and experience a dry prostate orgasm.

Once the prostate is full to bursting with fluid, you can end the session with a wet, ejaculating orgasm. Simply press a bit harder, still taking care not to drain it or lose concentration. I prefer to lie on my front for this part, since it provides a wall for you to press the prostate against. You should start getting sensations that remind you of a regular penile orgasm, except you’ll feel them in your prostate. Chase those sensations the same way as you do with penile masturbation, and you can create a wet orgasm.

After a prostate orgasm, I typically find that I feel very ‘cuddly’, for lack of a better word. It doesn’t have the same sudden drop in happiness that characterizes a penile orgasm, and I’ve taken to using a body pillow mainly so I have something to squeeze afterwards. For what might be similar reasons, I find that really romantic porn is a lot more effective for prostate sessions.

Bear in mind this all takes a LOT of practice, experimentation, and the right tools. It took me several toys and 3 years to get any visible results. If you feel nice sensations, but you don’t seem to be ‘getting anywhere’, don’t change tactic. Just keep generating those nice feeling, and enjoy them for what they are.

Good luck, and above all, have fun!