Ask Em: Is bigger really that much better?

"Is bigger really better?"

I get this age-old question all the time, mostly from guys but also from less-experienced girls. The simple, sugar-free answer is "Yes, bigger is better -- most of the time and for most women."

I can't speak for all women of course, but my survey sample size is larger than most. I've been in the lifestyle for 9 years, traded stories with many experienced women, and I've helped introduce dozens of newbies to sex with hung (black) men. Based on data from that sample, and my own experience, sex with a bigger cock -- exceptionally thick and 8+ inches -- is far superior to sex with a normal 6 incher.

"But Em, WHY is it so different? And HOW different does it really feel?"

I'll attempt to answer these questions below, but first, here's a few exceptions I've found to the general rule:

1. Some women are just not built for a big cock. I've encountered a few women who, even though turned-on by the idea of a huge cock, just can't take it. In the course of counseling these women, I've done a good amount of research on sexual anatomy, and I believe that most of these women have what's known as a "tilted uterus" or "tipped uterus" -- a condition which puts the cervix in the direct path of the penis. Guys, imagine your balls were located on the tip of your penis. Ouch!

2. Some men with big cocks are shitty lovers. They take no time to seduce us and turn us on, have no game whatsoever, and go straight to pounding away. Sex is equal parts psychological and physical. If a guy comes off as a complete pussy or a creep, I'll be turned off, no matter how big his cock is. And, if a woman is not sufficiently aroused (for reasons I'll explain below), her vagina can't accommodate a large cock the way it can when we're hot for it.

Those two exceptions aside, a big cock is better, and here's the answers to "WHY?" and "HOW?!"

1. Power and dominance are huge turn-ons. A big cock appears more powerful, and a reasonably confident man with a big cock appears more dominant than the same man with an average cock. The visual stimulation alone is arousing, and more excitement means better sex (again, assuming the guy isn't a pushover or a creep).

2. The obvious benefits of stretching and fullness. I like feeling "filled up" and a lot of my girlfriends say the same. With a big cock (especially the girthy ones) you get more friction - more pressing and tugging against the walls of your pussy, more rubbing against my g-spot. It's all just heavenly. And, if a guy has a real fatty, he can stretch my pussy lips so taught that my clit protrudes, so sensitive that just blowing on it will make me explode.

3. Certain positions are reserved for the well-hung. Speaking of g-spots and clits, there are certain positions that only a guy with a big cock can achieve. Two of my favorites are reverse doggy and reverse missionary. Reverse doggy gets a cock head digging straight into my g-spot (especially if he has a nice upward curve).
Reverse missionary (legs outside mine) gets the top of his shaft rubbing against my clit while he's penetrating me.
Both drive me wild. Neither can be pulled-off with an average dick.

4. Hitting the Posterior Fornix (the really deep spot). There are two deep spots that feel VERY good when properly stimulated. The Anterior Fornix and the Posterior Fornix. The Anterior Fornix can be reached by a 7 inch cock. The Posterior Fornix is only accessible and sensitive when a woman is extremely aroused. When that happens, a woman's vagina "tents" and the area beyond her cervix, deep in her pussy, lengthens and opens up.
If you put a cock in that spot when it opens, I'll have multiple, full-body, convulsive orgasms that make me squirt and cry. But you've got to get me super-hot to open that spot and then be packing at least 8 inches to fill it.


My apologies for the anatomy lesson, but like I said, I've done a fair amount of research in the course of educating other women about the joys of sex with hung black studs. And although the descriptions above might be dry, writing about this always gets me wet.