So ya wanna get into this...
I get told pretty frequently by guys that they want to get into this lifestyle but they are afraid to ask their wives/SO.
The way I see it you have two choices. You either keep on saying nothing and stay in the closet or you open up and start communicating with your partner. Iâm not suggesting you let it all hang out at once. Itâs a slippery slope and you donât want to take the chair up to the top and jump on the black diamond slope right off the bat.
Ask her what her fantasies are and maybe role play one out for her, even if it has nothing to do with your fantasy. You are setting the stage maybe youâll even discover that you liked her fantasy too.
Did you cum to fast? Is she unsatisfied? Dive down there and start licking. Despite initial protests sheâl probably like it and maybe sheâll even start asking you to do it.
***A note about cum and taste. itâs not all the same. If it tastes disgusting it probably has to do with diet and smoking tobacco. I didnât like the taste of cum for a long time, my own cum tasted horrible to me but I had a buddy that shot huge loads in my ex and when I went down there it was delicious. It wasnât until I quit smoking that I discovered my own cum wasnât that bad. My old buddy never smoked tobacco, something to think about.
So back to the âhow do IâŚ?â.
Once youâve acted out a few of her fantasies sheâll probably be curious about yours. Maybe you tell her you fantasized about coming home and finding her well fucked and full of some other manâs cum. Maybe you buy some nice toys and practice some fucklicking and/or dp. Maybe you find a buddy to jerk off with and you guys conspire to set something up.
Listen to your SO though, if she/he complains or voices their displeasure then you have to back off. Itâs just as important to respect peoples boundaries as it is to be honest. Itâs OK though to push those boundaries because thatâs how you discover new things about each other.
my 2 cents
The way I see it you have two choices. You either keep on saying nothing and stay in the closet or you open up and start communicating with your partner. Iâm not suggesting you let it all hang out at once. Itâs a slippery slope and you donât want to take the chair up to the top and jump on the black diamond slope right off the bat.
Ask her what her fantasies are and maybe role play one out for her, even if it has nothing to do with your fantasy. You are setting the stage maybe youâll even discover that you liked her fantasy too.
Did you cum to fast? Is she unsatisfied? Dive down there and start licking. Despite initial protests sheâl probably like it and maybe sheâll even start asking you to do it.
***A note about cum and taste. itâs not all the same. If it tastes disgusting it probably has to do with diet and smoking tobacco. I didnât like the taste of cum for a long time, my own cum tasted horrible to me but I had a buddy that shot huge loads in my ex and when I went down there it was delicious. It wasnât until I quit smoking that I discovered my own cum wasnât that bad. My old buddy never smoked tobacco, something to think about.
So back to the âhow do IâŚ?â.
Once youâve acted out a few of her fantasies sheâll probably be curious about yours. Maybe you tell her you fantasized about coming home and finding her well fucked and full of some other manâs cum. Maybe you buy some nice toys and practice some fucklicking and/or dp. Maybe you find a buddy to jerk off with and you guys conspire to set something up.
Listen to your SO though, if she/he complains or voices their displeasure then you have to back off. Itâs just as important to respect peoples boundaries as it is to be honest. Itâs OK though to push those boundaries because thatâs how you discover new things about each other.
my 2 cents
8 years ago
