Making her more dominant: A step-by-step guide, 2
Ok to recap, step 1 was let him catch you with another man. Now that he is extremely turned on and confused, you are ready for step 2.
Step 2: Give him a to-do list.
Remember in the first step you were to give him a chore while you fucked yourself with a big dildo? Step 2 is all about giving him direction and making sure he follows. "How do I get started?" It's simple really. First, when you're alone, make a list of the things you like him to do. For instance, your list may be:
Going down on me
Licking my ass
Giving me a foot rub
Doing me doggy style
Me on top
So now that you have a list of 5-15 things YOU like to do, put them in order of what he doesn't like to do. Example, he hates licking your ass. So, that's number 1.
Licking my ass
Going down on me
Giving me a foot rub
Me on top
Doing me doggy style
You can probably start to see how the things you like that he doesn't are more controlling for you. So now that you have your list, you're going to pull it out and say, "first, you're going to lick my ass, then my pussy, then..." right? Kind of, but not exactly. First, you have to practice. I know, it sounds dumb, but you have to learn to be assertive. You are going to spend a day or two talking to yourself in the mirror.
PS This might be a good time to tell you that you need to be abstinent between steps. If you do step 1 and then let him control and dominate you for the next 3 nights, when you try step 2, it isn't going to work as well.
Ok, so you are going to practice in the mirror by looking right in your eye and saying "Get over hear and lick my pussy", "don't you dare cum yet", "fuck me harder", "I said HARDER, not faster". Can you say that to yourself? If not, you're never going to be able to say it to him... You are going to grab pillows off the bed and make them "lay" where you want them while you talk dirty to them. "Lay in the middle, I'm going to fuck your face off" (as you straddle the pillow and make your way up to the 'head'), "lay over here on the edge so I can ride you" (as you grab his 'shoulders' and straddle him imagining his cock slipping into you), "get down there and eat this pussy" (as you push the pillow down your body to between your thighs). Can you do it? Again, if you can't make a pillow do what you want, how are you ever going to make him? You need to take control of everything you do.
Now that you have your list, you have practiced and can say all of those things with confidence and authority, you are ready for him. Pick a place and time. Anything works. The more out of the ordinary, the better. If you need to start out slow and familiar, wait until the evening when you're both going to bed. Crawl in to bed and do your regular nightly routine (kiss, snuggle, watch Conan, whatever). Now I want you to look at your 'pillow' and tell him to do one of the things on the list. Don't ask him, tell him and direct him to where he needs to go. Example, you're lying in bed watching adult swim. Half way thru family Guy you roll over toward him, sit up a little, grab him by his neck, look him right in the eye and say, "eat this pussy." Then you push his head down toward your thighs. Again, instant erection and instant confusion. He is going to do it without question. Is this one of the things he doesn't like to do? Ok, maybe it's because he's nervous. Give him some pointers. Help him out. Tell him it feels good when it does, and softly tell him "up a little more" or "not so hard" when it doesn't. Teach him how to make you feel good.
Now he is going to get bored. It doesn't matter what you make him do, he is going to get bored. You could make him do his favorite move ever, and he is still going to get bored. He wants to decide what position is next. He is ready to dominate you. You will know when he stops licking and starts to crawl toward you. What do you do now? You're vulnerable. You're naked, legs spread wide, you're soaking wet and on your back. He is going to crawl up and fuck you missionary style and dominate you! Or is he? No, he's not. Because as soon as he starts to get bored (trust your instinct, you'll know) you are going to give more direction. You are going to tell him to do something else on your list. "That's so good baby, now come here and lay on your back, I want to ride your huge cock." He will not refuse if again, you demand him, don't ask him.
What? You picked the last thing on the list? You rolled over, stuck your naked ass in the air and said "fuck this pussy", and now he is about to cum? No problem. You practiced for this. "Don't you dare cum in my pussy!, you shout" Tell him where to cum. Pick a place. You can still control the situation. He might be on top, but you are still dominating him. He has to listen to your commands. "Cum on my ass", "cum on my back". Maybe you like to suck dick and swallow? Nothing wrong with that. Tell him, "cum in my mouth." You are still in charge. You are still controlling the situation. He might FEEL like he was dominating, but he KNOWS you were. So what happens if he doesn't listen or you telling him what to do is a huge turn on and he can't hold it? The next thing you know your pussy is full and he is lying in bed, relaxed and feeling like a king. What do you do? Read step 3 which will be posted soon.
Feel free to leave comments and let me know how this works for you. Thanks for reading.
Step 2: Give him a to-do list.
Remember in the first step you were to give him a chore while you fucked yourself with a big dildo? Step 2 is all about giving him direction and making sure he follows. "How do I get started?" It's simple really. First, when you're alone, make a list of the things you like him to do. For instance, your list may be:
Going down on me
Licking my ass
Giving me a foot rub
Doing me doggy style
Me on top
So now that you have a list of 5-15 things YOU like to do, put them in order of what he doesn't like to do. Example, he hates licking your ass. So, that's number 1.
Licking my ass
Going down on me
Giving me a foot rub
Me on top
Doing me doggy style
You can probably start to see how the things you like that he doesn't are more controlling for you. So now that you have your list, you're going to pull it out and say, "first, you're going to lick my ass, then my pussy, then..." right? Kind of, but not exactly. First, you have to practice. I know, it sounds dumb, but you have to learn to be assertive. You are going to spend a day or two talking to yourself in the mirror.
PS This might be a good time to tell you that you need to be abstinent between steps. If you do step 1 and then let him control and dominate you for the next 3 nights, when you try step 2, it isn't going to work as well.
Ok, so you are going to practice in the mirror by looking right in your eye and saying "Get over hear and lick my pussy", "don't you dare cum yet", "fuck me harder", "I said HARDER, not faster". Can you say that to yourself? If not, you're never going to be able to say it to him... You are going to grab pillows off the bed and make them "lay" where you want them while you talk dirty to them. "Lay in the middle, I'm going to fuck your face off" (as you straddle the pillow and make your way up to the 'head'), "lay over here on the edge so I can ride you" (as you grab his 'shoulders' and straddle him imagining his cock slipping into you), "get down there and eat this pussy" (as you push the pillow down your body to between your thighs). Can you do it? Again, if you can't make a pillow do what you want, how are you ever going to make him? You need to take control of everything you do.
Now that you have your list, you have practiced and can say all of those things with confidence and authority, you are ready for him. Pick a place and time. Anything works. The more out of the ordinary, the better. If you need to start out slow and familiar, wait until the evening when you're both going to bed. Crawl in to bed and do your regular nightly routine (kiss, snuggle, watch Conan, whatever). Now I want you to look at your 'pillow' and tell him to do one of the things on the list. Don't ask him, tell him and direct him to where he needs to go. Example, you're lying in bed watching adult swim. Half way thru family Guy you roll over toward him, sit up a little, grab him by his neck, look him right in the eye and say, "eat this pussy." Then you push his head down toward your thighs. Again, instant erection and instant confusion. He is going to do it without question. Is this one of the things he doesn't like to do? Ok, maybe it's because he's nervous. Give him some pointers. Help him out. Tell him it feels good when it does, and softly tell him "up a little more" or "not so hard" when it doesn't. Teach him how to make you feel good.
Now he is going to get bored. It doesn't matter what you make him do, he is going to get bored. You could make him do his favorite move ever, and he is still going to get bored. He wants to decide what position is next. He is ready to dominate you. You will know when he stops licking and starts to crawl toward you. What do you do now? You're vulnerable. You're naked, legs spread wide, you're soaking wet and on your back. He is going to crawl up and fuck you missionary style and dominate you! Or is he? No, he's not. Because as soon as he starts to get bored (trust your instinct, you'll know) you are going to give more direction. You are going to tell him to do something else on your list. "That's so good baby, now come here and lay on your back, I want to ride your huge cock." He will not refuse if again, you demand him, don't ask him.
What? You picked the last thing on the list? You rolled over, stuck your naked ass in the air and said "fuck this pussy", and now he is about to cum? No problem. You practiced for this. "Don't you dare cum in my pussy!, you shout" Tell him where to cum. Pick a place. You can still control the situation. He might be on top, but you are still dominating him. He has to listen to your commands. "Cum on my ass", "cum on my back". Maybe you like to suck dick and swallow? Nothing wrong with that. Tell him, "cum in my mouth." You are still in charge. You are still controlling the situation. He might FEEL like he was dominating, but he KNOWS you were. So what happens if he doesn't listen or you telling him what to do is a huge turn on and he can't hold it? The next thing you know your pussy is full and he is lying in bed, relaxed and feeling like a king. What do you do? Read step 3 which will be posted soon.
Feel free to leave comments and let me know how this works for you. Thanks for reading.
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