Blissful Convenience

Every time I'm in a good mood this site ruins it for me. Ok...I'm going to say it here, because I'm done dishing it out individually. 'tis pointless and all the fun of it has been whisked away. So prey tell, what is with the double standards on this site? Will someone please tell me WHY it's ok for straight men to 1,000% ignore gay men and their content or whatever they don't like, but when I ask guys with the temple of cock profile to opt out of sending me a messages, all of a sudden I'm a Nazi but THIER ignorance goes unchecked? Just out of morbid curiosity, I want to know why. Seriously... Someone explain it to me. I'll give you a cookie...

I'm aware that to most people the foreign concept of a woman not wanting to see dick is some unexplained far-out concept. I mean pfft, who is a woman to say she doesn't want to see dick? lol. YET, My profile says NOT to leave a comment if you have content I disapprove of...Those are my wishes, and they're to be respected same as everyone's on this site should...Period. Respect isn't too much to ask for.(Respect on a porn site? To a GIRL?! The joke's on me, eh?)

If someone doesn't want to see something, they shouldn't have to out...out of mere general principle. Doesn't matter the enviornment. It doesn't matter what the other person's intentions are, or what someone thinks...no means NO. There are some women who don't want to see lesbian content...so I read that and move on. Why are most of them men on this site so entitled or flat-our disrespectful to the point they just disregard what you ask? I mean who are people to have standards? It's a porn site...of COURSE I have to see it. Territorial hazard. Who am I to think otherwise?

I should shut up or perhaps leave. BUT what happens when homosexual men with gay male sex all over their wall messages straight guys? I'm sure most go into a fit and rage or they 100% ignore them...Why? Because they don't want to see content they're uncomfortable with or flat-out don't approve of...*gasp*. Same as me. Only no cares when they do it because they're men. They're allowed to do so. SOME of us DO NOT WANT TO SEE DICK. I'd rather look all blood and guts on my wall than see a cock avatar, or a blowjob avatar, or a man-ass avatar, or whatever else disgusting crap.

Now THAT would make a sexy avatar....Mmmmm

Who gives a half a damn what I want to see, right? Who do I think I am I? I'm no one, so leave me alone and send comments to someone who cares. Have some curiosity. And NO I'm not going to lock my profile because sometimes there are women I'm not friends with who leave nice comments. And I shouldn't have to. I shouldn't have to let ignorant people dictate my profile habits. NO ONE should. That goes back to the whole "well if you don't want to be ****d don't wear revealing clothing" mentality(No, I'm not comparing the severity of **** to trivial porn site comments, shut up!) that again just alleviates men from all blame and puts the onus squarely on the woman for having a damn preference.

For the most part I keep to myself. I have highly inflammatory and potentially disturbing content on my profile so for the most part I stay away from people who don't share my interests. I don't go trying to convert heterosexual women to adopt sapphic habits and I don't go to men's profiles and tell them how disgusting the crap they watch happens to be, or chastise them for treating women like sub-humans. I don't force my views on other people...GUESS WHAT? I'm narrow-minded. I'm hardly progressive...So if I don't like something...I don't. I don't want to be "challenged" or be more accepting, just sod off. Don't try to understand me, or encourage my views or call me out...Just move on.

Sadly, it's not even just me. It's even worse for man of the lesbians here that have personal content uploaded. They constantly get disgusting comments from men, despite asking otherwise, DESPITE mentioning they're gay and asking not to be disrespected, but still get disgusting crap over and over. Again, if a homosexual did they same to straight men, THEY would take offence to those advances, but hey you're a woman and they're a man so gay or not it's IMPERATIVE you know how "too bad you're gay" or "I want to fuck you" regardless. It doesn't matter how YOU feel. Just take it... And yes of course, no not all lesbians feel the same, don't mind it or care, but damn it...SOME of us do.

This wouldn't even be worth noting if it wasn't for the reaction. I'd just delete comments and move on. But oh, no...Guys with dick profile/avatar leaves comment, I say something along the line of "you should probably read before you send comments, can you not see the part where I ask you not to send anything?" then I get some long, trite and random message about how hateful, stupid, ignorant, narrow-minded, worthless, or whatever negative adjectives comes to mind BECAUSE I expect people to read. But the proverbial cherry on this spite-filled sundae is of course I'M the one who's blocked before I can leave a reply...

So imagine this, someone throws a tomato at your front door despite their being a MASSIVE notice on the door not to do so. You ask said person why they're tossing tomatoes your way when you specifically ask them not to so. And as a retort, in a furious rage they insist it's your fault, for they were just being a kind and gentle neighbor...No, it's your fault for not liking tomatoes and they're the victim and proceed to insult you, and leave before you can retaliate....Being a coward is cool.

Just because you or most women love seeing random penis and ejaculation doesn't mean we all do. Some us of don't want thirty offers of cum tributes a day, to sent links of women treated like sub-humans or to be called a sexy dyke whore and asked if we want to cam to some guy jerking off. Again, weird I know. Because if this site has taught us anything it's that ALL women deep down secretly love penis, right? Even the gay ones, of course. But no one is going to read this so who cares? Boo-boo me complaining again....Just don't comment telling me how much you don't care...Refrain! Maybe I should just make my avatar two men kissing and change my orientation icon....hmmmmm.....And that was longer than I expected...I really need to find better things to do with my time.

Good day.

Published by Thelambofdeth

10 years ago

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Thelambofdeth Publisher 10 years ago

A preemptive strike...Hmmm...I like it.

Yeah...that anonymity is certainly a double-edged sword...and me with my inability to just disregard them doesn't help...You live and you learn, I guess.

I think you're right. It's just the gall of some of them that irks me. I could see if I went to THEIR profile and tried to inspire conflict. But it seems like ignoring them is just the best course of action. The novelty of troll-bashing has worn off. Thanks for the comment.

Sorry, I don't have Korean cookies, lol.

to katachthonios : Yeah pretty much. Only when I say any of that I'm a "whiny bitch". Porn(and some of the profiles on this site) have reduced actual lesbian with NO leaning to cock as mere urban legends and penis avatars are just "natural" and everyone should seem them like it or not. I'm not trying to change perception because I really don't care about what people think collectively anymore. No one here reads or respects or let alone cares about lolconsent so, pfft...who cares.

(And none of them NEVER respond to that query when it's posed because I know it always the same answer.)

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drchuck 10 years ago

i'm guessing that most, if not all, of those men have never questioned their privilege at any point. because of the racist, patriarchal structures of most western european societies i have stumbled through life on the easiest setting available, that of white male. since i was in junior high and was confronted by blatant instances of double standards regarding both race and gender i have questioned my privilege on a near constant basis. i am also quite literate which is why, despite the absence of a phallic avatar, i have shied away from posting to your wall beyond an initial attempt to be friended some time back.

i fully recognize that you are, or certainly seem to be, and independent spirit who needs no validation from me but i am both pleased and amused with your blogging. pleased because i can find so much with which i agree and amused because your blog here is already proving to be one of the better feminist blogs i've read lately. i thank you for that. i look forward to your future postings.

katachthonios 10 years ago

Masterfully written, but I'm sure you knew that already.

Once upon a time, maybe back in my teens, I'd've insisted you cut these guys something of a break, that they don't know any better, that they are as much victims of patriarchy. But now I am older, and experienced, and bitter: you expressed your intent clearly, and these brahs feel it means nothing, that like fantasy they create lesbians are simply two hot chicks waiting for the right cock. Their actions disregard consent.

Their actions disregard consent.

Now perhaps there are a dozen and a half excuses why they didn't realize or are too stupid to comprehend or what have you, but in the end, all things equal, you said "Do not do this" and they do it. You have every right to be angry.

(One step further: you mention a number of times how they react when presented, mutatis mutandis, with gay male ass-fucking, with anger and revulsion. I wish it were something other than one more shade of misogyny: they cannot stomach the idea of a man treating them the way they would treat a woman.)

LolaBlack 10 years ago

to Thelambofdeth : Don't call it "whiny", you're brilliant at stuff like this. Kiss.

to LolaBlack : Well this was just one big whiny rant anyway...but thank you.

Well said. A bit more reasoned than my rant "about me"

to Dark_Witch : And that's my issue. The whole "well it's a porn site" argument is moot. IDC where you are, it's not too much to ask for respect. Or at least it shouldn't be. I mean I'm sure there's no straight girls that go around lurking gay males chat-rooms asking for sex. Why do men have to do it? There are guys who have literally come to my profile and sent me straight porn, or had blowjob or whatever on there avatar on profile and the worst part is they see nothing wrong with it...But again, if gay guys do it to them they have a bitch-fit.

"yeah sure let me take my panties off right now!! Give it to me. That's why I'm in a lesbian chatroom you fucking asshole! Then I would block them."

haha

Dark_Witch 10 years ago

You hit it on the head *respect* Any guy should look on your page and see LESBIAN. That means you like girls you want a girl. You don't want to see his cock. When I use to go to sex chat rooms. Guys would come in the chat room and say "hey i know this is a lesbian chatroom but do you want to fuck" Sometimes I would reply with yeah sure let me take my panties off right now!! Give it to me. That's why I'm in a lesbian chatroom you fucking asshole! Then I would block them. People are asses. You're a lesbian and it should be respected.