Why is it so hard????

So I got on here hoping to meet or get to know some others that are like me. I want to experiment with all this. Why is it so hard to get to know someone and see what happens?

Published by jdmjunkie

10 years ago

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jdmjunkie Publisher 7 years ago

to vfnylon : That's what makes this so hard I live outside of Chicago and you would figure maybe an abundance of people in the same scenario but everyone just wants a wham bam thank you Pam quickie in the ones you do try to get to know that wanna get to know you they start acting different then their 1st time talking to you and just makes it hard to understand where the dialect is coming from because most will say I'm married I don't wanna change that situation and then they act like they wanna change that situation once they get to know you is just hard and it's getting frustrating

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vfnylon 7 years ago

Agree like the others. I been CDing since 1975. Way back it was taboo. The past 8 years I like others searched all over for another CD. Seems to far away, scared or just a regular non CD guy who wants a quick get off. You can be who you want online but when it comes to a real meet its very if'y. I did find another CD close by me, he is also married and we have gotten together first to see if we even could be friends, we quickly did and our time together is fantastic.

GL

foot-cumer 7 years ago

I feel ya. It's something I have struggled with for a long time. I'm at a stage now where I'm giving up on the chance. I can't even get someone to chat long enough in pm form, let alone a c2c or even a real meet. I remember my first ever cam show, wasn't long on cam when another CD wanted to cam, never did it before, but decided to go for it as I was curios. Thought I was onto a winner after the show, as next time I went on I got another. Though the first guy has cammed with me twice, he doesn't talk to me anymore. These days, I'm lucky if I can even chat with someone, though it's rare. Funnily enough, I was once chatting to a viewer on cam, and he told me that I will eventually wear stockings(no more hose) as they wold provide easier access. How can that be possible when I can't even chat with someone? HAHA.

longcockluvr 8 years ago

I completely understand you. I am in the exact same situation. I have been on here and PornoHub both for years hoping to meet even one guy, but it has never happened. I feel so alone at times and wonder why I am even here anymore. I know it must seem extremely stupid, but everytime I check my messages there is that hope in my heart that it will be "that" guy I have been hoping to meet. Maybe there is not really any such person for me and I am only a dreaming fool. If life is only about being alone why is it worth even living?

lyinglarry 9 years ago

to jdmjunkie : I find that so much of what I see on here is so shallow, it is "all about me." For instance, I make it very plain in the first line of my profile that I never skype of do c2c, yet the first question is, "got skype"? Duh, NO. I just had one, I asked him if he could read, he said yes, so I said, "go to my profile read the first line and then see if your question was appropriate." I am sure some may read this and ask, "well what the hell are you doing here Larry if you feel that way about this site?" And my reply is that for every 50 jerks on here there is at least one guy or gal (there are some real woman here believe it or not) that wants to develop a relationship if it is nothing more than a live chat session or friendly PM's. So don't give up, put your desire out there and see what happens. Just my old man line of thought. I used to tell my sales guys, if it takes 10 cold calls to make 1 sale than how many cold calls do you need to do to make 10 sales. Not a trick question, it is all about volume.

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jdmjunkie Publisher 9 years ago

to lyinglarry : That's the way I feel. I have a friend on my list that is from where I live and also dresses and has had a post on Craigslist and I responded to it we talked for a bit and even talked on here a few times and even though said person is a little older I still would like to talk and get to know said person of interest and yet nothing. I comment and like pics and videos and still it's like I haven't proved to whom I'm referring to that I have interest in them. It's definitely frustrating cause I am on here putting videos and pics and blogs and all that and still it's like nothing comes from all the effort put in to it.

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lyinglarry 9 years ago

You are asking a question that I ask all the time. One of my friends was having a very bad day today, feeling melancholy and unable to pull herself out of it. She said, "I feel so alone, I am surrounded by all these people and still can't connect." So don't feel like the Lone Ranger with your question. To be honest, 90% of those on my friends list never chat, drop a note, or comment on anything I do. I find that curious, if I find you interesting enough to add then I should also try to feel some connection.