Our rules for BDSM in a loving relationship

OUR RULES FOR BDSM IN A LOVING RELATIONSHIP

1. You must enter into the bdsm relationship by mutual consent - it must be a loving agreement or it merely becomes domination and sadism.
2. You must both agree what it is you are going to get out of the bdsm relationship. You, the man, is going to have the thrill of doing what he wants to a woman (your wildest fantasies can now be played out). She must be rewarded by the thrill of the unknown, the relaxation of abnegating responsibility for the sex session, AND she must be rewarded with her orgasmic pleasure - she will also get pleasure from knowing that she is pleasing you - so tell her "Good girl" etc.
3. Parameters must be set as to what is acceptable. It is all very well the lady saying "It is your cunt do with it as you want". You must set limits as to what is acceptable to both of you in a loving relationship.
4. You must have a HALT STOP word. This should not be a normal word associated with halt or stop as the lady will often say this without thinking. It must be a word or sign (if she is gagged) that means STOP. This is important - in many bdsm situations cramps can develop that cause a non-sexual pain, a candle could burn too low and you have not noticed etc.
5. Use equipment, restraints etc that are comfortable and bearable to the submissive; (Soft ropes, Wide tapes, lined handcuffs etc). You want her to be able to retain the positions of restraint without a non-sexual pain developing)
6. Have a plan as to how the session is to proceed - You want a prologue (the dressing for the occasion – if a scenario, then the role play must be introduced); An intro (If a restraint session this would be the setting of the restraints, a warm up by being naked under a coat when shopping or at pub etc); a couple of main courses and a finale. If you are not sure on ideas for a session look at my profile and the blogs for ideas on a sex game. The sub must also have a sexual frissant of the unexpected.
7. Work out a rule for punishments if the sub disobeys AND stick to it. These can be simple punishments like a smack on the cunt, the denial of orgasm - it does not have to be a full blooded caning (you may progress to this or you may not). The sub will also do things just to merit a punishment!! (Especially if she knows it pleases you, for which she will be well rewarded)
8. Sort out the everyday rules of subservience that become part of the daily routine e.g:- Shaved or hairy pussy, shaved oxters, the wearing of knickers, how she addresses you (Sir, Master etc) etc.
9. Decide on long term irrevocable items of servitude e.g:- A slave tattoo, nipple and pussy piercings.
10. Now get started and get her to categorically say "This is your cunt, your body to sexually do with as you please" (within the agreed parameters of course).
Hope this helps, If you need more please do not hesitate to ask. The world of sex is now your oyster to explore, what it is you wish to explore, only you know. If you have looked at my site you will have seen how we explore it.
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