Me and my big mouth
I had a salutary lesson this weekend regarding the limitations placed upon showing respect for this site's female membership. I decided to visit the webcam page of one of my Xhamster friends, *******, and noticed immediately that she was coming under some less than polite pressure from one of her audience. He was repeatedly yapping at her to "show the pink" and became somewhat agitated when the only pink she displayed to camera was her camisole.
I found his attitude somewhat unpleasant and suggested he could at least preface his demands with the word "please", at which juncture he pointed out that I had no right to criticise him because I hadn't purchased any of the tokens with which members of her audience could show their appreciation (rather in the way guys at strip clubs toss dollar bills at the girls on stage). In this, he was entirely correct, and I imagine that from his point of view, my comments were completely out of order. After all, he had paid good money (10 cents per token) for the right to treat this woman like a subservient piece of meat, and he was damned well going to exercise that privilege. I, on the other hand, was an uppity party crasher who should shut the fuck up and keep my liberal opinions to myself.
What surprised me at the time, but which in hindsight should have occurred to me as inevitable, was that ******* immediately blocked me from her account. After all, this holier than thou evangelist for rudimentary manners was interfering with her revenue stream. From that perspective, her decision to banish me was not only understandable, but vital to the continuing fortune of her web presence. I had stupidly placed my smug sense of political correctness in the path of her capitalist imperative, and the latter was always going to emerge victorious.
So, what lessons have I taken from this debacle? Firstly, a reminder that respect is a mutable concept: almost every job involves at least some sacrifice of it. Secondly, never step between a woman and her punter, even if he's being an arsehole. And finally, there are times when it's best to keep my mouth shut and just enjoy the show.
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Postscript: One month after the incident decribed above, I was welcomed back into the young lady's webcam room. In view of this, I've redacted her username, although I believe the issues raised here remain valid.
I found his attitude somewhat unpleasant and suggested he could at least preface his demands with the word "please", at which juncture he pointed out that I had no right to criticise him because I hadn't purchased any of the tokens with which members of her audience could show their appreciation (rather in the way guys at strip clubs toss dollar bills at the girls on stage). In this, he was entirely correct, and I imagine that from his point of view, my comments were completely out of order. After all, he had paid good money (10 cents per token) for the right to treat this woman like a subservient piece of meat, and he was damned well going to exercise that privilege. I, on the other hand, was an uppity party crasher who should shut the fuck up and keep my liberal opinions to myself.
What surprised me at the time, but which in hindsight should have occurred to me as inevitable, was that ******* immediately blocked me from her account. After all, this holier than thou evangelist for rudimentary manners was interfering with her revenue stream. From that perspective, her decision to banish me was not only understandable, but vital to the continuing fortune of her web presence. I had stupidly placed my smug sense of political correctness in the path of her capitalist imperative, and the latter was always going to emerge victorious.
So, what lessons have I taken from this debacle? Firstly, a reminder that respect is a mutable concept: almost every job involves at least some sacrifice of it. Secondly, never step between a woman and her punter, even if he's being an arsehole. And finally, there are times when it's best to keep my mouth shut and just enjoy the show.
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Postscript: One month after the incident decribed above, I was welcomed back into the young lady's webcam room. In view of this, I've redacted her username, although I believe the issues raised here remain valid.
11 years ago
I know it takes all sorts to make a world, but it takes a particular kind of prick whose only enjoyment is to upset and unnerve the performer.
Am sure there's a Bloodhound Gang song title which springs to mind... "The Lapdance Is So Much Better (When The Stripper Is Crying)" - seems to be their raison d'etre.
Btw, I went to that erotic site and was reading a well written tale. Maybe I download it for reading even if my wife is around.
Good post, thank you for it, My best, Anthony
Sometimes my mood and my view of life crush harsh in the reality of hamster. I try to hold up the banners but not everwhere they are asked for.
Other websites got mods to keep the scum out, but it is not really easy to decide what is the "rights" of the customer and what is beyond to be "nice" even that they pay.
At that point even the performer can decide what is more important the "tokens" or even her own normal policy.
This might change quicker than we might think.
You pointed out "her capitalist imperative", not easy to be helpful when it is needed to pay rent (or whatever) and "we" donĀ“t know about it
Anyway....I am really pleased to read these thoughts....and I always try to be a nice and respectful guest.
If a girl wanna be treated as a slut (which reminds me to another post of you) they show this and mosten they are "ladies" who do this for sensation, not for tokens.