Private Profiles

I've recently been receiving a bunch of friends requests from people with profiles set to private. I will not consider friending anyone with their profile closed to the general public unless, (in a recent case) someone knows the person sending the invite and can vouch for them.

This site, nice as it is, has a big time spam problem, and their tactics are constantly changing. I've lost count of how many times I've received an invite from someone with a private profile saying, you can trust me, add me please. I wait a couple days, re-check that same profile again and it's gone.

I understand the need for privacy, especially in the case of women and couples, but one method would be to contact the person with a PM when they're online and arrange to temporarily have your profile open for a few minutes, then close it again.

I'm not one for blind faith, and there's a saying here in the Midwest: "Never buy a pig in a poke". If you approach myself or anyone with a profile set to private expecting me to trust you, the message you're sending is... You don't trust me, and isn't a friendship supposed to be based on a measure of trust?

My profile is open, you can see me. Shouldn't I be able to see you?

Published by drwho6

11 years ago

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nadia877 9 years ago

to JustAFunGirl : I completely understand this, but i suspect with 99.99% certainty that You are not sending out hundreds of friend requests. You are staying within Your circle, and that works well for You!

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nadia877 9 years ago

i couldn't agree more. Private profiles are an immediate reject from me. i love it when i get a message from someone telling me how much they love my profile and the information i share, and my faves, etc., and they share nothing. What does that say about them?

JustAFunGirl 10 years ago

Hi Dr Who,

I find your profile refreshing in some ways and enjoy having a look around.
However your info is general, mine is not, that is why I set my profile to "private" after about 6 months. I have a good circle of friends, enough to keep me busy, enough of them local to my area, and will only accept a request from someone who has also filled out their profile, or has found me via another friend. The world is smaller than we think.
This may be a porn site, but by joining and creating a profile you take it a step further.
I value my privacy (haha being on XH), I am reasonably careful about what I upload, and just want to have some fun without being recognised.
A different take - but there you have it!
We all have different re
We are all here for different reasons.

bigpssylvr 10 years ago

Hey this is great info..i needed to see this. What about if I request a friend request from a private profile is it a chance its spam or just when they request for your friendship????.thank you

Great insights! Thanks for sharing!

drwho6 Publisher 11 years ago

to llemus : Thanks for that explanation, which could be a blog in itself.

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llemus 11 years ago

to forest_nomad : The exact same scam they do know with a widescreen tv.you end up buying the box that ounce held a new kickass new TV with a couple bricks in it & no widescreen.Poke simply refers to a blind sale as in that bundle of wrapped meat more than likely had a family pet in it instead of pork. Here in Iowa a poke is also what we call any bag used for holding loose leaf rolling tobacco...not sure if that's just regional.So it also( around here )stands for smoking up some of that dope before you go handing over any money

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modelmaker 11 years ago

I agree with the majority,,,if you can't see then ,,why accept them

JoeJackm 11 years ago

One of the other niggling issues on xHam is the basic levels of stupidity that one can encounter...the previous reply here from (now-retired) adrianbm65, for instance - it takes SO much time to read a freakin' profile. SPAM or ignorance?
Either way...

adrianbm65 11 years ago

man you are one INTRESTING girl!
i respect your mind set and bod, rock on and STAY real!

strappcpl 11 years ago

Couldn't agree more. If you post pics or videos on the internet it is a given that people will steal them & repost them on other sites. Keeping a 'private' profile does not prevent that. It's like a kid who wants to play football but will only play if he can be sure he doesn't get hit. It doesn't work that way. Go big or stay home.

mike0207 11 years ago

I can imagine that the ladies close there profile from time to time.Some are flooded with PM's and comments. But I've learned that if an invite comes without a message it usually won't work out.

forest_nomad 11 years ago

ps they've just unveiled the latest 'proper' DrWho! any comments? Jx

forest_nomad 11 years ago

Hey Doc, thanks for the advice. I've only just discovering this site as more than a porn site...I like to sexually experiment, & PERHAPS make some good friends...far & wide. BTW being from over da Pond...what does "Never buy a pig in a poke" mean? Jx

hairyseeker69 11 years ago

I tend not to add anyone who doesn't have anything to show for their stay here. Private profiles is one thing but it is something different when they don't have anything on their profile. Yet have been here for 1000 or so days.

P-L-P 11 years ago

I have simple rules for accepting an invite, no cock avatars, there are just too many, no empty profiles, and must at least have favorites, and of course, if they haven't commented much after 100 days then they never will.
I don't know what other uploaders like, but I love to read the comments and find out what people like, I don't mind if they say the video is crap, as long as they give a reason. Just writing crap isn't fair. Give a reason.
I do understand that people just want updates from my page, but thats what the subscribe feature is for, there's no point sending a friend invite if all you want is to watch videos and never communicate in any way.

In short - I support all the points in this blog.

Personally, I've only twice - by intuition - accepted an invite from a people with a private profile, and luckily, I've not been dissapointed.

However, I don't intend to continue down that road. The 'gives' and the 'gets' should even each other out, more or less. I 'give' my profile, it's open for everyone to see. I expect to 'get' the same in return.

Simple as that!