Not bi or gay but straight because im a VIRGIN How

I have a sexual attraction towards men and women... now wouldn't that mean that I'm bi? Well apparently not to some of the ppl in my life.

"you cant be bi or gay I've known you since you where a little girl"
"you've never had sex so you can't be bi or gay"
"all you need is some good dick and that will straighten you out"
"you don't act like your gay and I've never seen you look at a girl"
ETC. it goes on and on with me explaining my sexual orientation

1. not a little girl anymore
2. a straight person who chooses not to have sex is no less straight because their not having it
3. how will just fucking a guy prove that im not into girls
4. HA! that still doesn't prove that im straight all it proves is that you haven't seen me check out girls

Orientation(gay, straight or bi)is not defined by behavior rather by sexual attraction.... It's like ppl forgot that they where once virgins
on the upside my list gets shorter and my friends are becoming more understanding



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12 years ago
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prnlvrnj
prnlvrnj 9 years ago
Very well put! Its like saying "he can't be gay(or bi) because he is married and has kids".
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edintx99
edintx99 10 years ago
OMG... "all you need is some good dick"? It's like punch line in a bad comedy routine. Only you know yourself so be yourself.
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cumcravingcraver02
cumcravingcraver02 10 years ago
to NO-NOPE-NAW : and did you Ash? check my profile. any comments or..
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octoberdogg
Orientation is something we are all born with, yet some straight folk (at least, I assume it's all straight folk making these judgment calls on you) seem to forget that.
As a gay friend of mine once put it, whenever he gets asked the perennial "...so when did you start being gay?" he shrugs and says "I don't really know, when did you start being straight?" :grinning:
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NO-NOPE-NAW
NO-NOPE-NAW Publisher 10 years ago
to cumcravingcraver02 : lol
"all you need is some good dick and that will straighten you out"
this comment was actually by a girl that has known me snice i was a little girl and she just doesnt think before she speaks sometimes but snice then she had to start looking at me as a grown woman... and your comments are awesome i have to check out your profile
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cumcravingcraver02
cumcravingcraver02 10 years ago
to NO-NOPE-NAW : "all you need is some good dick and that will straighten you out"

sounds like something (only) a guy would say. one who thinks men are like gods gift to women and there can't possibly be any other gender in the picture.

"3. how will just fucking a guy prove that im not into girls"

it doesn't.
but to them it's not about you proving it. but you being convinced after, that girls won't be your thing because the sex with the man was so fantastic.


"you don't act like your gay and I've never seen you look at a girl"

how does one act gay? lots of people are gay, where noone can tell by the way they behave.

Ash, you take what Kelly said to heart. you love who you love, when you love them. regardles of gender (everytime), it's the person that matters. and there's no need to hide it ever. people will accept you or can hit the road.
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NO-NOPE-NAW
NO-NOPE-NAW Publisher 10 years ago
not much growth and still zero experience i would answer it the same. i still have a strong attraction towards men and women.... somewhere down the line if and/or when i do have sex with a man/women i dont think i could ever change my answer or hide my attraction towards both sexes
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rodent1
rodent1 11 years ago
I had a licence before I owned a car. Didn't mean I couldn't drive.
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NO-NOPE-NAW
NO-NOPE-NAW Publisher 12 years ago
:wink:thx
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kellykins2u
kellykins2u 12 years ago
stay strong honey, labels are things people who dont understand/accept use to try to make sense of the world. just be yourself! :smile:
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