She wants what you want. Make it easy for her.
The unspoken truth: At some point, a newly wed spouse has to tell his wife or her husband what her or his fantasy is if there's to be any possibility of the "fantasy" becoming reality. Otherwise they'll spend a lifetime wishing for something that will never happen. Guys in particular, are terrified of telling their wives, but it's easy. Just present it as a sexy dream and don't go overboard with "cuckold" talk and stories of huge cocks, "breeding benches" and so on. A wife might simply want a lover with whom she can experience orgasm and afterglow with (or thinking way ahead: pregnancy) on a regular basis. Here's what I've learned after decades of sharing my wife.
When I surfaced the "sharing" discussion with my wife, she jumped on the idea, but did want further clarification. Honestly, I wasn't surprised as she'd already dropped a few hints. As always, we need to LISTEN to our wife. My wife already had a guy in mind and it took a great deal of pressure off me as she wasn't having orgasms with me when we had penetrative sex. She and I started our journey with her seeing a former lover solo - I wasn't there, and then we moved to a threesome with someone both of us agreed would be an excellent guest in our home. Soon enough, she invited him into our bedroom on a long term and regular basis - she did this as we had breakfast in our kitchen after her lover spent the night with her. It turned out that she and I wanted pretty much the same sexy things in our marriage. We tried all sorts of things with him: FLR, poly with all of us sleeping in the same bed, etc. It turned out that the best long term scenario for us was an attractive, fertile and personable long term lover for her. He lived a few miles away, was married and we knew he was fertile as he had children. He worked outdoors and was somewhat (using an overworked term here) buff. His rough hands on her body did things for her that my businessman hands couldn't. His wife enouraged the relationship for her own reasons - she wanted some personal time without him asking her for sex. This DOES happen!
It's up to you, the husband, to create the conditions and environment for your wife to love and enjoy sex with her lover. Help her find a man who is personable, attractive, nicely equipped, fertile and available. Emphasis on "personable" as he'll be in your home, in your bed, and in your wife often. Lover and hubby need to get along well together as what seems like a spacious home or apartment can get real small real quick if the personalities don't click. This may not happen fast. It takes time to find the right guy and you want her to be choosy as he will be in your home on a regular basis (although probably not as often as you or your wife would like). You may not be wanted in what you view as your own bedroom if your wife and her man are in bed making love. It won't be just fucking.
Once you and your wife have found the right man for her, I'd suggest you don't disappoint her by insisting on too many "rules" that will inhibit her as she has sex with her man. Some husbands don't understand that this isn't the time to be trying to "control" things. Let her experience the joy lovemaking any way she wants to and as often as she wants to. You will be happy (and at times, scared) knowing that he's finishing deep inside her every time and you will know she is experiencing orgasm with him every time he's in bed with her. This never gets old, but it may be inconvenient at times. You can make love to her after he leaves while she's still aroused and full of his sperm if you are an aficionado of "seconds." This is how a wife can reaffirm the bond between herself and her hubby in a very loving way even if she can barely feel him when he's in her. She'll be happy, bubbly and loving. You married well and soon enough you may have your own video to post. If she will let you....
When I surfaced the "sharing" discussion with my wife, she jumped on the idea, but did want further clarification. Honestly, I wasn't surprised as she'd already dropped a few hints. As always, we need to LISTEN to our wife. My wife already had a guy in mind and it took a great deal of pressure off me as she wasn't having orgasms with me when we had penetrative sex. She and I started our journey with her seeing a former lover solo - I wasn't there, and then we moved to a threesome with someone both of us agreed would be an excellent guest in our home. Soon enough, she invited him into our bedroom on a long term and regular basis - she did this as we had breakfast in our kitchen after her lover spent the night with her. It turned out that she and I wanted pretty much the same sexy things in our marriage. We tried all sorts of things with him: FLR, poly with all of us sleeping in the same bed, etc. It turned out that the best long term scenario for us was an attractive, fertile and personable long term lover for her. He lived a few miles away, was married and we knew he was fertile as he had children. He worked outdoors and was somewhat (using an overworked term here) buff. His rough hands on her body did things for her that my businessman hands couldn't. His wife enouraged the relationship for her own reasons - she wanted some personal time without him asking her for sex. This DOES happen!
It's up to you, the husband, to create the conditions and environment for your wife to love and enjoy sex with her lover. Help her find a man who is personable, attractive, nicely equipped, fertile and available. Emphasis on "personable" as he'll be in your home, in your bed, and in your wife often. Lover and hubby need to get along well together as what seems like a spacious home or apartment can get real small real quick if the personalities don't click. This may not happen fast. It takes time to find the right guy and you want her to be choosy as he will be in your home on a regular basis (although probably not as often as you or your wife would like). You may not be wanted in what you view as your own bedroom if your wife and her man are in bed making love. It won't be just fucking.
Once you and your wife have found the right man for her, I'd suggest you don't disappoint her by insisting on too many "rules" that will inhibit her as she has sex with her man. Some husbands don't understand that this isn't the time to be trying to "control" things. Let her experience the joy lovemaking any way she wants to and as often as she wants to. You will be happy (and at times, scared) knowing that he's finishing deep inside her every time and you will know she is experiencing orgasm with him every time he's in bed with her. This never gets old, but it may be inconvenient at times. You can make love to her after he leaves while she's still aroused and full of his sperm if you are an aficionado of "seconds." This is how a wife can reaffirm the bond between herself and her hubby in a very loving way even if she can barely feel him when he's in her. She'll be happy, bubbly and loving. You married well and soon enough you may have your own video to post. If she will let you....
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