Melania’s Trials

The former first lady is swept back into the Stormy cyclone.

By Maureen Dowd

April 20, 2024


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Melania will have to hold her head high as she stands by her Lothario.


Outside my office, there is a picture of the Slovenian Sphinx visiting the Egyptian Sphinx, taken during a 2018 photo shoot in Giza, nine months after Melania Trump was blindsided by the steamy news about her husband and Stormy Daniels.

The pairing evokes the riddle of Melania: How much can she put up with from a husband who betrayed and humiliated her in the basest possible ways?

As Donald Trump’s hush-money trial begins, we’ll be reminded of what a heel he is. And like Hillary before her, Melania will have to hold her head high as she stands by her Lothario. Melania will also put political and personal prospects above mere resentment. (She doesn’t want Donald broke and in jail.)

As her White House press secretary Stephanie Grisham wrote in her memoir, Melania wanted no Hillary comparisons. When the Other Women stories broke, Melania told Grisham she wanted to drive to Air Force One ahead of Trump.

“I do not want to be like Hillary Clinton, do you understand what I mean?” Melania said, according to Grisham. “She walked to Marine One holding the hands with her husband after Monica news and it did not look good.”

Hillary was able to use her husband’s infidelities to redefine herself with a more sympathetic aura and slingshot to a Senate seat.

This trial may help cement Melania’s image as a Trump, a loyal citizen of Trumplandia who thinks the system is rigged against her husband, and who will stand with Donald as he tries to regain the Oval — no matter his perfidies toward her and others.

As Katie Rogers wrote in The Times, Melania shares Donald’s view that the trial is unfair and the prosecution is a disgrace, engaging in a proceeding that is, itself, tantamount to election interference.

When the Stormy story broke, Grisham thought Melania would storm.

But the presence of anger was conveyed by absence. Melania, who rarely visited her East Wing office anyhow, holed up in her suite and at the spa in Mar-a-Lago, a satiny confinement. This most elusive of first ladies became even more elusive, skipping dinners with her husband on the patio; striking references to him and avoiding the word “wife” in tweets; dropping her plan to accompany Donald to Davos; posting a photo of herself on the arm of a handsome military aide; taking a separate car to her husband’s first State of the Union address.

Melania must have grit her perfect teeth through Stormy’s “Make America Horny Again” strip tour, her tell-all in In Touch magazine saying she could describe Donald’s anatomy, and a cringey “60 Minutes” interview.

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Melania often simply seems
complicit in Trump’s
irresponsibility.

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Stormy, a star of “Sexbots: Programmed for Pleasure” and the director of “Lust on the Prairie,” told Anderson Cooper that she had asked about Melania during her condom-free liaison at a celebrity golf tournament at Lake Tahoe in 2006: “And he brushed it aside, said: ‘Oh yeah, yeah, you know, don’t worry about that. We don’t even —. We have separate rooms and stuff.’”

Lovely.

So far, Melania has not deigned to play Maureen Dean, sitting behind her man in court every day for support. (Ivanka has shunned the courtroom, too.) Melania has long called Stormy “Donald’s problem,” noting to Grisham: “He got himself into this mess. He can fix it by himself.”

She is, by all accounts, angry that she has to be dragged through this X-rated circus again, especially while she is still mourning the death of her mother.

What could be more absurd and hypocritical than the putative Republican nominee selling Bibles and promoting an America with draconian abortion laws during his trial over a $130,000 payment to keep a porn star from telling voters about their dalliance?

Melania surely recoils from the prospect of testifying, which Justice Juan Merchan suggested may happen. He has also ruled that jurors may hear about Trump’s affair with Karen McDougal, but not about how it continued while Melania was pregnant.

The former first lady, who is helping her son prepare for college, perhaps at New York University, does not want Barron’s name thrown around in a New York court. Trump made Barron an issue, asking for a day off for his son’s high school graduation.

Signaling that she will be part of the campaign, Melania is headlining a Log Cabin Republican event at Mar-a-Lago this weekend. In an interview with Fox News Digital previewing her remarks before that L.G.B.T. group, Melania said that America “must unite.” It’s not the first time her message has been at odds with her husband’s behavior.

As first lady, Melania clearly styled herself after Jackie Kennedy, wearing high-fashion clothes that seemed to be not only art but also armor and maintaining poise through a parade of indignities.

“Like Jackie, Melania foregrounded her role as mother, and that enabled her to keep a degree of distance,” Dawn Tripp, the author of the upcoming novel “Jackie,” told me. “Both had that guarded, sphinx-like quality. But Jackie used that quality to maintain her independence from her husband’s administration and used her power in public and private ways. Melania often simply seems complicit in Trump’s irresponsibility.”

Complicit, to borrow from the “S.N.L.” skit about Ivanka, the perfume of Trump women.
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Onlooker2022
Onlooker2022 9 months ago
Rich old men have always married beautiful women who are happy to compromise their physical standards in return for wealth. This is an age-old way of the world, part of human nature, DNA is destiny, beauty is a real advantage. I am sure if Melania wants to have sex with younger, hotter men than DJT, she is smart enough to do it discreetly. After all, this is partly what security details are for, in the case of rich women. This goes all the way back to Guinevere and Launcelot in the Arthurian legend. It only gets dangerous when someone catches feelings.

There really is nothing new under the sun. We have developed awesome technology but we cannot escape our flawed nature. Perhaps that is why it will soon be time for Artifical Intelligence to take over.
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emigre69 9 months ago
to Nickyhere : I think it might be because she has such a fullfilling and exciting sex life with Donald, innit ?
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oldjacker67
oldjacker67 9 months ago
to Nickyhere : I have not spent much time either on their relationship. I have better things to do lol.. But yes, "show me the money" would seem to be at the forefront. 
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oldjacker67
oldjacker67 9 months ago
Not sure if this article is supposed to make us feel sorry for Melania or to be repulsed by her or is it just a timeline of events and comparisons to other first ladies that were in the same boat. It would appear to me that she wanted a better life than Slovenia had to offer and  found a way out as a model. Surrounding herself with such wonderful people like Jeffery Epstein who introduced her to the the orange (which isn't so orange anymore) haired man fresh of his second divorce from another trophy wife. Are we supposed to believe she had no idea who and what he was? That somehow she would change him? I think not. She got what she wanted, money and fame. She got her parents over here through chain migration which Trump denounced. What did she do as First lady? Be Best, what a contradiction that is to her husband's behavior. Feel sorry for her? I think not again. Maybe she should buy one of Donald's Bibles and read what Paul the Apostle had to say.: “Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.”.
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Nickyhere
Nickyhere 9 months ago
to oldjacker67 : I have to be honest, I haven’t studied her or the relationship. But I don’t see much warmth, much less, love, there. Just two disconnected people. Not being nasty, but from experience, eastern europeans know where the money is. There’s a generalisation for us!
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oldjacker67
oldjacker67 9 months ago
to Nickyhere : Definitely no sympathy here. If what you covet most is what you end up with then all should be happy. Why doesn't she leave? Prenuptial agreement comes to mind. .
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SeaStories1983
SeaStories1983 9 months ago
It remains ironic to me that this particular criminal case will be first out of the gate. Compared to the Federal charges and even the Georgia case, this scandalous little gem was supposed to be thought of as small potatoes. But Trump's delaying tactics may have proven ill advised as it brings this. . . viewed as eminently winnable. . . to the foreground. And by God, there are actually criminal penalties to be had! 

I cheer for all the prosecutors, but this week it's "Go, Bragg!"
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Nickyhere
Nickyhere 9 months ago
to emigre69 : Sure.  She's lived ok. Money. Position. Doesn't mean there is payback. But she's better off than most of us. No sympathy here. I wonder why she doesn't get out.  Oh, I think I know.
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emigre69 9 months ago
I find myself very conflicted by Melania. I have been to Slovenia. It is a delightful country now, but as a small entity within Yugoslavia it must have been pretty dreary. I am not surprised that she decided to leave. And somehow she ended up with Donald Trump as his third wife. Part of me believes that she knew exactly what she was doing, that she exercises a remarkable ability to terrify him and that she is playing the part of aggrieved wife, because it is what people expect. But then perhaps she is not as steely and heartless as she appears, and the whole thing is ongoing nightmare, mitigated only by a jetset lifestyle and lots of money. 
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