The Monogamists’ Guide to Group Sex
I sometimes think that J (my wife) and I should be in a museum. Or a zoo.
We are a rare breed: a strictly monogamous couple who have never had sex with anybody else (really!) - and never will. Now in our early sixties, we have been married for 35 years, which adds up to more than 13,000 hours of being together in our bed, and never anybody else’s.
That’s a long time to keep sex fresh and interesting, but if it sounds like it it wouldn’t be possible, think again. We have tried virtually everything a heterosexual couple can do together without involving anybody else - and enjoyed most of it. One day I may chronicle, in another post, all the things we have done to keep sex fun and exciting, but for now let’s just say we have been very successful at losing our inhibitions, embracing porn and getting as dirty and kinky as possible.
And then there’s all the group sex.
“But I thought you said you were strictly monogamous,” I can hear you say. “How can you have taken part in group sex?”
I thought you would never ask. Well, amazingly, we have found several ways to make group sex part of the fun.
The first move, a few years ago, was to visit various swinging clubs, and we made about a dozen trips in the end. That’s right: we were swingers. Sort of. Just because we had a strict look-don’t-touch policy, it didn’t mean we were unwelcome among the swingers. Nobody checks whether you are actually joining in or not, and our first contribution was to watch. After all, most of the people there have come because they like other people to watch them have sex, and we were more than happy to oblige.
We also liked to be watched, which is something every couple needs to try before they die. There is only one thing better than showing your erection to other people, and that’s other people watching when you cum.
So there was the pure joy of watching and being watched, for a start, but we also discovered that coming out of the bedroom to have sex in front of other people actually makes it feel MORE intimate, not less. It’s not just that it feels far more adventurous than sex in private. When it is public, it somehow concentrates the intensity you feel with your partner. It seems counter-intuitive, but it really is true that I have never felt sex at home to be as intimate as those times when we had an audience.
So even if you are monogamous like us, try to find some way of having sex in public. You will not be disappointed.
Of course, getting to see (not to mention hear and smell) all that sex, including group sex, from a ringside seat, is beyond horny. Unless you are very experienced, you will spend most of the time wondering whether it isn’t all just a wet dream. But there were other, more surprising, pleasures for us, that you have probably never thought of.
In that sort of situation, the atmosphere is absolutely electric with sex and lust and pleasure and expectation, but there is another huge element: temptation. And if you think that temptation is a bad thing when you have sworn not to join in, you are wrong again.
There were two types of temptation for us. First there was the one that was hanging over us when all we had to do was reach out, because a willing moist cunt or an erect penis were often literally within our grasp. Nothing could have been easier. Far from being frustrated by not being able to participate, though, we actually found it was a thrill to be so close and know that we would always resist the temptation. It’s hard to explain why, but the closest we came to describing it was to liken it to the feeling you get when you are close enough to a cliff edge to be able to imagine jumping or falling off - and when you don’t, you feel a bit more alive than before you climbed up the cliff.
Then there is the other kind of temptation: the one you offer to other people. When you enjoy foreplay and then fuck in front of swingers (sometimes a group, sometimes a couple, sometimes a single wanking man), you cannot fail to arouse them, and you just know they would like to join in, if they could. And we confess that in that situation, we loved being untouchable. Call us prick teasers if you like, but we did try our best to give them a good show as a consolation, and nobody ever complained.
Another way for a monogamous couple to enjoy group sex (of a kind) is to make friends with another couple at a swingers’ club and enjoy fucking in the same room - and if we live to be 100, we will never forget that experience, especially fucking our respective partners to orgasm in side-by-side sex swings.
All good things must come to an end, though, and for a few reasons, our ‘swinging’ days are behind us now. But our orgying is far from over as we have recently developed the idea of adding another kind of group sex.
This time it is thanks to this website, and in particular the chat facility.
We have been fortunate to make friends with a beautifully dirty, uninhibited and articulate couple of a similar age, and we regularly send them long messages about what we get up to in our own bed, and what we would like to do to them in their bed. And vice versa. It was mostly as a result of chatting to them that we decided that a whole new genre of sex play would be opened up to us by introducing fantasies about swapping and group sex - all of which had been off limits before.
So, for the first time ever we are fantasising about sex not just with other people, but - infinitely more erotically - with specific other people, with our Xhamster friends top of the list. We have even started referring to them by their names during sex, and a more recent development is imagining that when we fantasise about a night of sex with them, sometimes they don’t necessarily have the option of saying no to our demands - a luxury you can have with virtual sex partners that real ones don’t necessarily allow.
Our policy of never physically having sex with anyone else is still cast in stone, but we like to look upon our XHamster chats as virtual group sex, and, like actual sex, it comes with a feeling of gratitude. We feel doubly privileged - firstly to get an insight into another (sexy and successful) couple’s bedroom secrets, but also to feel the pleasure that comes with playing a small part in their sex lives. And hopefully, the feeling is mutual.
They are slightly different to us in that they have a small amount of swapping experience, which provides us with erotic stories that are not only horny to hear about, but provide yet more opportunities for fantasising.
I should say that we rarely chat live, mostly using it as a kind of alternative email system, responding to each other’s latest filthy ideas, and it only works because we really go for it, and there are none of the awkward single line or even single word replies that often kill the conversation and spoil the mood in live chat.
So, if you are a fellow monogamous couple (or even if you aren’t), we thoroughly recommend adopting our version(s) of group sex to add to your repertoire.
In the meantime, we would love to have a similar relationship with you, so do not hesitate to send us a friend request if you would like to develop something similar in your sex life. We will probably accept the request, but remember that we are looking for a flowing, open conversation, so you need to be articulate, and uninhibited enough (or willing to learn how) to share secrets and fantasies, and eventually come up with filthy ways that you would like to fuck us and be fucked.
We are a rare breed: a strictly monogamous couple who have never had sex with anybody else (really!) - and never will. Now in our early sixties, we have been married for 35 years, which adds up to more than 13,000 hours of being together in our bed, and never anybody else’s.
That’s a long time to keep sex fresh and interesting, but if it sounds like it it wouldn’t be possible, think again. We have tried virtually everything a heterosexual couple can do together without involving anybody else - and enjoyed most of it. One day I may chronicle, in another post, all the things we have done to keep sex fun and exciting, but for now let’s just say we have been very successful at losing our inhibitions, embracing porn and getting as dirty and kinky as possible.
And then there’s all the group sex.
“But I thought you said you were strictly monogamous,” I can hear you say. “How can you have taken part in group sex?”
I thought you would never ask. Well, amazingly, we have found several ways to make group sex part of the fun.
The first move, a few years ago, was to visit various swinging clubs, and we made about a dozen trips in the end. That’s right: we were swingers. Sort of. Just because we had a strict look-don’t-touch policy, it didn’t mean we were unwelcome among the swingers. Nobody checks whether you are actually joining in or not, and our first contribution was to watch. After all, most of the people there have come because they like other people to watch them have sex, and we were more than happy to oblige.
We also liked to be watched, which is something every couple needs to try before they die. There is only one thing better than showing your erection to other people, and that’s other people watching when you cum.
So there was the pure joy of watching and being watched, for a start, but we also discovered that coming out of the bedroom to have sex in front of other people actually makes it feel MORE intimate, not less. It’s not just that it feels far more adventurous than sex in private. When it is public, it somehow concentrates the intensity you feel with your partner. It seems counter-intuitive, but it really is true that I have never felt sex at home to be as intimate as those times when we had an audience.
So even if you are monogamous like us, try to find some way of having sex in public. You will not be disappointed.
Of course, getting to see (not to mention hear and smell) all that sex, including group sex, from a ringside seat, is beyond horny. Unless you are very experienced, you will spend most of the time wondering whether it isn’t all just a wet dream. But there were other, more surprising, pleasures for us, that you have probably never thought of.
In that sort of situation, the atmosphere is absolutely electric with sex and lust and pleasure and expectation, but there is another huge element: temptation. And if you think that temptation is a bad thing when you have sworn not to join in, you are wrong again.
There were two types of temptation for us. First there was the one that was hanging over us when all we had to do was reach out, because a willing moist cunt or an erect penis were often literally within our grasp. Nothing could have been easier. Far from being frustrated by not being able to participate, though, we actually found it was a thrill to be so close and know that we would always resist the temptation. It’s hard to explain why, but the closest we came to describing it was to liken it to the feeling you get when you are close enough to a cliff edge to be able to imagine jumping or falling off - and when you don’t, you feel a bit more alive than before you climbed up the cliff.
Then there is the other kind of temptation: the one you offer to other people. When you enjoy foreplay and then fuck in front of swingers (sometimes a group, sometimes a couple, sometimes a single wanking man), you cannot fail to arouse them, and you just know they would like to join in, if they could. And we confess that in that situation, we loved being untouchable. Call us prick teasers if you like, but we did try our best to give them a good show as a consolation, and nobody ever complained.
Another way for a monogamous couple to enjoy group sex (of a kind) is to make friends with another couple at a swingers’ club and enjoy fucking in the same room - and if we live to be 100, we will never forget that experience, especially fucking our respective partners to orgasm in side-by-side sex swings.
All good things must come to an end, though, and for a few reasons, our ‘swinging’ days are behind us now. But our orgying is far from over as we have recently developed the idea of adding another kind of group sex.
This time it is thanks to this website, and in particular the chat facility.
We have been fortunate to make friends with a beautifully dirty, uninhibited and articulate couple of a similar age, and we regularly send them long messages about what we get up to in our own bed, and what we would like to do to them in their bed. And vice versa. It was mostly as a result of chatting to them that we decided that a whole new genre of sex play would be opened up to us by introducing fantasies about swapping and group sex - all of which had been off limits before.
So, for the first time ever we are fantasising about sex not just with other people, but - infinitely more erotically - with specific other people, with our Xhamster friends top of the list. We have even started referring to them by their names during sex, and a more recent development is imagining that when we fantasise about a night of sex with them, sometimes they don’t necessarily have the option of saying no to our demands - a luxury you can have with virtual sex partners that real ones don’t necessarily allow.
Our policy of never physically having sex with anyone else is still cast in stone, but we like to look upon our XHamster chats as virtual group sex, and, like actual sex, it comes with a feeling of gratitude. We feel doubly privileged - firstly to get an insight into another (sexy and successful) couple’s bedroom secrets, but also to feel the pleasure that comes with playing a small part in their sex lives. And hopefully, the feeling is mutual.
They are slightly different to us in that they have a small amount of swapping experience, which provides us with erotic stories that are not only horny to hear about, but provide yet more opportunities for fantasising.
I should say that we rarely chat live, mostly using it as a kind of alternative email system, responding to each other’s latest filthy ideas, and it only works because we really go for it, and there are none of the awkward single line or even single word replies that often kill the conversation and spoil the mood in live chat.
So, if you are a fellow monogamous couple (or even if you aren’t), we thoroughly recommend adopting our version(s) of group sex to add to your repertoire.
In the meantime, we would love to have a similar relationship with you, so do not hesitate to send us a friend request if you would like to develop something similar in your sex life. We will probably accept the request, but remember that we are looking for a flowing, open conversation, so you need to be articulate, and uninhibited enough (or willing to learn how) to share secrets and fantasies, and eventually come up with filthy ways that you would like to fuck us and be fucked.
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