Some of my kinky fetishes

Acarophilia: arousal from scratching. Scratching is often an element incorporated into rough sex

Accidental stimulation: refers to accidental physical stimulation and situations that arouse adrenaline and cause arousal.

Age play: role play in which one or both partners pretends to be a different age/stage. Types of age play include infantilism, Daddy/daughter play, and diaper play, among others. Some kinksters differentiate between DD/lg and age play.

Agoraphilia: fetish dedicated to sex in public places.

Aliens: kinksters fetishize about having sex with aliens, often in an a*****ion and forced scenario.

Amaurophilia: kink for being unable to see, blinded or blindfolded during sex.

Anal sex: both giving and receiving anal sex can be a kink or fetish. Giving to a male with a strap-on is also known as pegging

Anonymous sex: a kink revolving around anonymous sexual encounters where one or both parties is unaware of the other’s identity. Gloryholes are a common form of anonymous sex but they are not the only form.

Aquaphilia: fetish for water and having sex in or around water.  This can extend to a fetish for swimwear or posing in water even if it doesn’t involve sexual activity.

Asphyxiation: a highly danerous kink dedicated to choking, smothering and strangulation. Autoerotic asphyxiation is self-choking. To be clear, asphyxiation is very dangerous and has led to injuries and deaths

Blindfolds: a type of bondage that blocks a person’s vision

Bondage: restraint of a person, either by physical item (cuffs, rope, etc.) or instruction (known as mental bondage). Restraint can be full-body (vacuum beds, suspension) or involve a single body part such as the eyes (blindfold), mouth (ball gag), wrists or even thumbs. Bondage may include furniture and devices. Reddit has a number of subreddits dedicated to the subject

Breath play: choking and limiting breath.  Being aroused by this is known as hypoxyphilia  This kink is a type of edge play that is dangerous.

Breast/nipple worship: the act of worshipshipping someone’s breasts or nipples.

Caning: the act of hitting someone with a rod known as caning.  Fleshy areas such as the back of the thighs and butt are advised, but some people enjoy caning the bottoms of feet. Canes are traditionally made from wood, but modern canes may be made from plastic, metal or other semi-flexible materials. Caning is a form of impact play that is more extreme than typical flogging and may be dangerous if done improperly.

Chastity: a fetish where someone’s access to their genitals is blocked. Women wear chastity belts, and men wear cock cages that prevent erection and release. Also known as forced abstinence or forced celibacy. Chastity can be used as a form of self-denial or orgasm control.

Choking: blood choking is the act of choking someone until they pass out. It is incredibly dangerous

Clothed sex (endytophilia): the affinity for sex while fully or partially clothed. You can enjoy this kink while lifting your skirt or dress, so your man penetrates you. Pushing underwear to the side can also be a form of this fetish.

Consensual nonconsent: situations where one or both parties have given prior consent for activities that may appear to be or actually involve nonconsent. **** play is a common form. The “victim” has given prior consent to this type of play but seems to resist. Couples should negotiate boundaries beforehand, including a safe word. Consensual nonconsent should never be spontaneous. If negotiations are avoided or safe words ignored, consensual nonconsent can lead to real trauma or even become sexual assault.

Cunnilingus: this kink can be geared towards receiving oral sex as a woman or giving it either as a man or woman. Cunnilingus plays well with pussy worship. If your partner has a kink for licking pussy, you won’t need to convince him to go down on

Degradation: if you like when your man talks down to you during sex, you might be into degradation. This is one of those kinks that works especially well with domination and submission. Just because you like doing it (giving or receiving) during sex doesn’t mean you think any less of your partner. However, not everyone likes degradation, and that’s okay.

Discipline: giving or receiving punishment for perceived or defined infractions. Discipline is a major part of many power exchange relationships and something typically desired by masochists and administered by sadists.

Dirty talking: having a kink for talking dirty during sex is pretty tame. Some people might not even consider it a fetish! Get tips for talking dirty

Exhibitionism: a common fetish for being naked and performing sexually in front of a person or persons. Masturbating for your partner is a mild form of this kink, but performing in sex windows or at BDSM shows and parties is a safe way to explore this fetish. Sex in public is partly exhibitionism. Related to agrexophilia, which is arousal when other people know about your sexual activities, and autagonistophilia, exposing oneself while on stage and being photographed. The counterpart of voyeurism.

Face sitting: the act of a woman sitting on a man’s face while he performs oral. Face sitting can include mild suffocation but doesn’t have to. It’s incredibly dominant.

Face slapping: a slap across the face brings you to attention and corrects your mistakes. You’re unlikely to enjoy this fetish unless you’re a bit of a masochist, but it’s not as far out as some items on our list of kinks.

Fighting/Wrestling: play fighting and wrestling is sexy because your body proximity as you struggle to maintain control. Even if you lose, you don’t really lose! If you’re turned on by a fight between other people, you’re not alone, either.

Flogging (flagellation): hitting someone with a multi-tailed tool known as a flogger. Depending upon the strength of the swing, flogging can range from warm-up to harsh impact that draws blood. Floggers tails come in many materials: fur, leather, suede, rubber, silicone, and ball-chain to name a few.

Food play: incorporating food into sex. This may mean using someone as a dish or table, covering your partner’s body with food and licking it off (think whipped cream or chocolate sauce, but you can get creative!). Food play can be fun, but beware that playing with food near your vagina could contribute to a yeast infection.

Frotting: rubbing of two penises together. One man may hold the penises together during this act. Similar activities include frottage (rubbing while clothed for sexual stimulation) and frotteurism (rubbing or fondling an unsuspecting/non-consenting person).

Gerontophilia: attraction to someone from a much older age group. May-December relationships can fall into this kink if the members of the couple specifically fetishize the age difference. 

Golden showers: See watersports.

Group sex (Polyiterophilia): group sex and multiple party scenarios can be quite hot, but they can also be uncomfortable. Threesomes are one of the more common arrangements (and a fascination with three-person sex is known as triolism/troilism). Wanna try a threesome yourself?

Harpaxophilia: the fetish for being robbed. Can be played as a role in consensual non-consent

Helplessness: any role in which someone is helpless. They may be the victim to their roleplay partner (robber, k**napper, etc), or their partner may act as a savior (think of a princess who needs saving or an inept housewife).

Hypnotism: in an erotic situation, hypnosis could be a form of consensual nonconsent. Try out this kink with some sexy magician/assistant role play.

Infantilism: a specific type of age play where someone plays an infant/baby. This can involve pacifiers, diapers, bottles, etc. A second person may act as a nanny or parent.

Intercrural or interfemoral sex: thrusting between someone’s thighs without penetration

Intoxication: taking d**gs or alcohol during or before a sex scene. Intoxication can lead to poor decision-making, risky behavior and mistakes that could be dangerous or even fatal, especially when mixed with edge play.

Jerk off instructions (JOI): Being instructed to told to to masturbate

Latex/rubber: latex, rubber, PVC and similar materials attract our eyes with their sheen. They make for perfect fetish photography, too. Fortunately, you can get your kink on with the help of many retailers that specialize in latex gear and clothing.

Lesbophilia: men with this kink enjoy lesbian sex more than your typical male. Some may go so far as to imagine themselves as women in girl-on-girl scenarios.

Maschalagnia: a fetish dedicated to armpits, including, kissing, licking and smelling. This kink may also involve inserting penises in the armpit for stimulation.

Masochism: enjoyment of pain, punishment, and torture. Someone who feels this is known as a masochist. Masochists are often but not always submissive.


Medical play: role play involving medical scenarios, medical implements (scalpels, needles, speculums, etc) and/or medical uniforms. Medical play often involves an examination of one person by the “doctor,” who may take advantage of the situation. Play piercing is also common in medical play. Any play that breaks the skin can be dangerous if an infection occurs.

Military: a military fetish that often goes hand in hand with a uniform fetish.

Mixophilia: a kink related to watching yourself having sex. Recording sex

Nonconsensual: a kink for sex without consent (****). All nonconsensual sexual activities and play are forms of sexual assault or ****. This is i*****l, traumatizing and can be dangerous.

Odaxelagnia: kink for biting or being bitten. May or may not involve blood.

Otherness: sexual attraction to someone from other places, including aliens

Peodeiktophilia: showing one’s penis to others (flashing)

Pteronphilia: kink for being tickled specifically by feathers.

Pygophilia: partialism to butts and seeing, touching and playing with them.

**** fantasy: a fetish for acting out a pretend **** (consensual nonconsent). This fantasy can occur on both the victim or perpetrator’s sides. Arousal at the idea of **** is known as raptophilia. Discover other common fantasies

Rimming: a kink for giving or receiving 

Sensation play: a light kink where partners exchange sensations on the skin. Items with different textures (soft, hard, bumpy, smooth, cold, hot, etc) can be run across the skin. Pain isn’t involved, but you can alternate between pain and sensation during light 

Sensory deprivation: any play that prevents someone from using one of their five senses. Blindfolds block sight, gloves prevent touch, earmuffs deprive the sense of hearing

Siderodromophilia: a fetish for trains or engaging in sexual activity on a train.

Somnophilia: the fetish for sexual partners who are asleep. It is a rare fetish [14]. People with this fascination may enjoy the “sleeping princess” trope. In reality, a partner should specify prior consent to sexual activity that happens or begins while they are asleep because sleeping people cannot give consent. Definitions differ, however.


Teasing (Tantalolagnia): To enjoy teasing as sexual gratification. This may be prolonged sexual teasing or teasing in the form of insults and ribbing.

Teleiophilia: the erotic preference for persons between the age of physical maturity and the onset of middle-age

Tickling (Knismolagnia, Knismo, Titillagnia): while tickling can be a form of teasing, it’s a kink in its own right for some people. Those who enjoy tickling may enjoy surrendering control or struggling to retain it. Tickling to the point of urinating is also one flavor of this fetish. Tickle torture is a kink for tickling or being tickled while bound.

Tripsolagnophilia: massage fetish. Even if you don’t have a fetish, a sensual massage can be relaxing and it’s good foreplay!

Uniforms: many women love a man in uniform, but not every couple incorporates this into their sex lives. Those who do just might have a uniform fetish. Uniforms, of course, can make someone seem like a powerful person (military, police and firefighter uniforms are some of the most popular) or help you get into the role of a naif (schoolgirl, waitress, Playboy bunny) and a well-fitted uniform shows off a person’s body in just the right way. If your job requires a uniform, you’re in luck. Otherwise, you can hit up a costume shop or even buy uniform-inspired lingerie.

Voyeurism: a kink for watching someone else while naked or engaged in sexual activity. Voyeurs and exhibitionists make excellent pairings. Non-consensual voyeurism may be against the law. Ecouteurism is a related kink for listening to someone have sex without permission. The fetish is also known as scopophilia.

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