What is Squirting?
What is Squirting?
In technical terms, squirting is defined as âthe discharge of a noticeable amount of fluid from the urethra.â This occurs after a variable time of sexual stimulation, and itâs often linked to g-spot stimulation.
Is Squirting Real?
Now that you know how squirting is defined, letâs answer the question that many men and women wonder: âIs squirting real?â
The short answer? Yes.
Now for the long answer: Squirting is a real, scientifically confirmed phenomena. It occurs when a gush of liquid flows from the urethra during sexual excitation, and it may or may not occur at the same time as an orgasm.
The confusion doesnât seem to be around whether squirting is real or not. Instead, it seems to be based around the definition of squirting and exactly what squirting is. For years, itâs been believed that the fluid associated with squirting is urine. That is, a woman who squirts is actually urinating during sexual stimulation.
The real composition of squirting fluid is more complicated than that, however. Itâs true that the fluid associated with squirting does come from the bladder. In addition, it contains urea, creatinine, and uric acid, all of which are found in urine. But thatâs not the only things found in the fluids. In fact, a particularly protein which is associated with male ejaculation, Prostate-specific antigen (PSA), is also found in the fluid produced from female squirting.
This protein is believed to come not from the urethra, but from the Skeneâs gland. The Skeneâs gland (or more accurately, Skeneâs glands) are glands located on the anterior wall of the vagina, near the base of the urethraâs opening. Itâs believed that the Skeneâs gland releases its own fluids at the same time as the bladder. This is what marks the difference between a woman urinating and a woman squirting.
4 Myths Associated with Squirting
There are a lot of misconceptions about squirting, especially as its portrayed by the media. But Iâm here to clear up the confusion.
Myth #1: Squirting is Fake
I covered this briefly above in the section on âIs Squirting Real?â But thereâs no doubt that this myth requires further discussion. The most common association that many men and women have with squirting is what theyâve seen in pornography. Just as with anything else portrayed in pornography, though, squirting is dramatized.
The woman in pornography often have torrential, gushing squirts that seem to go on forever. They will also often convey the fact that theyâre having the most intense orgasm of their life at the same time.
Itâs true that the amount of squirting which happens will vary from woman to woman, and even from session to session. But letâs get one thing clear: The squirting thatâs portrayed in pornography is often far from reality.
So will your partner have an intense squirting climax that leaves you, herself, your bed, and everything within 10 feet drenched in her fluids? Unlikely. That doesnât mean that squirting is fake, though.
It helps if you think of squirting in pornography the same way you think of orgasms. You know orgasms are real, but theyâre overplayed by pornography models. The same can be said for squirting, but this shouldnât discourage you from getting your partner to squirt.
Myth #2: Only a âcertain typeâ of woman can squirt
Itâs true that pornography has seriously altered the way men and women view sex. A particular way in which its done so is by portraying a certain image of a woman who can squirt.
Squirting is often thought to be a rare phenomena, and one that only âexperiencedâ woman can achieve. The truth is that just about any woman can squirt under the right circumstances.
Myth #3: If she squirted, she orgasmed
Itâs commonly thought that squirting = orgasm. But as many squirters will tell you, thatâs not always the case.
Is is possible to squirt and orgasm simultaneously? Of course! Itâs not a requirement that you orgasm at the same time as you squirt, however. In fact, many women can squirt multiple times before they reach climax. Howâs that for amazing?!
There are things you can do to increase the chances of her having a squirting orgasm, though itâs never guaranteed. A few tips include:
Stimulating her clitoris
Practice edging
Use a sex toy (e.g. vibrator, nipple clamps, etc.)
If you canât get her to squirt and orgasm at the same time, does that mean youâve failed? Absolutely not! It may be that your partner just isnât conditioned to do that. Or perhaps you and her just need to get more practice (*wink, wink*).
Myth #4: Squirting can only occur with g-spot stimulation
Thereâs no doubt that for many women g-spot stimulation is the easiest way to get her to squirt. Itâs not the only way, however. The g-spot is the fleshy nub located towards the opening of the vagina. When the woman is aroused, the g-spot will even fill with blood and seemingly grow larger.
Does this sound familiar? If you know anything about female anatomy, then this may sound similar to how the clitoris fills with blood during female arousal.
Why? Because the g-spot is actually thought to be an extension of the clitoris.
When we speak of the clitoris, weâre referring to the small, spongy structure at the top of the vulva. This is only just a small part of the clitoris, though, as the majority of it is internal. So even if your girl is only used to squirting from g-spot stimulation, it may be a lot easier to get her to squirt from clitoral stimulation than you both think.
In some cases, you may even get her to squirt with nipple stimulation or anal intercourse. So if you and your girl are happy with the way things currently are, great. But you can also play around with a few other techniques to see if you can get her to squirt in different ways.
How to Get Her to Squirt
Are you interested in bringing your female partner to a squirting orgasm? Or maybe youâre a female who wants to experience one herself. Letâs look at ways to make that happen.
Get Her in the Right Frame of Mind
Squirting is just as much (if not more) about the emotional connection as itâs the physical connection. This is why itâs crucial that you get your partner in the right frame of mind if you want her to squirt.
What does this mean?
The act of squirting is a very intimate experience. It leaves her in a vulnerable position, and itâs often thought of as shameful. This is why you must have your partnerâs full trust before you move forward.
How can you gain her trust?
Reassure her. Itâs unfortunate, but many women think of squirting as a shameful act. This is why you must reassure her that you want her to enjoy herself fully. You should also let her know you arenât worry about the âmessâ associated with squirting.
Talk about her fears. What is she most worried about? Is she scared youâll make fun of her? Or maybe sheâs concerned about the mess. Once you know what her hangups are, you can confront them head on.
Make yourself vulnerable. How can you expect her to be vulnerable if you arenât vulnerable in return? So open up to your partner about your own insecurities and fears. You may even consider doing some sex acts that you may have previously been uncomfortable with if it means opening yourself up more emotionally and physically to her.
And remember that actions speak louder than words. You must back up everything you say with your actions if you want her to truly feel comfortable opening herself up to you.
Get Her Warmed Up
Once sheâs prepared emotionally, itâs time to get her physically ready to squirt. One way to do so is with extensive foreplay. Foreplay is an important part of any sexual encounter.
It gives the woman time to get into the right headspace, and it also prepares her physically by ensuring she has enough natural lubricant. While foreplay can sometimes seem like a chore, especially if youâre ready to go, itâs a great way to build up that sexual tension and ensure a more explosive climax for the both of you.
Makeout Session
Did you think that steamy makeout sessions were just for teens? Think again!
A hot makeout session can be a great way to get your partner warmed up and ready to go. The lips are a very sensual spot, after all. But a makeout session is also a fun way to show her just how much you want her.
So if youâre looking to build the anticipation, then add a makeout session to your list.
Erotic Massage
Is your partner particularly tense? If she sensitive to touch? Or perhaps sheâs just always up for something new. Erotic massage is the answer to all of the above, and more!
Man giving woman a back massage
The good news is that erotic massage is very easy to do with very little training. There are tips, however, that can make this time even more special for your partner. For example:
Learn about the erogenous zones. The erogenous zones are the most sensitive spots of a womanâs body. They include the obvious (e.g. nipples, clitoris) and the not-so-obvious (e.g. ears, neck, arch of the back). If you pay special attention to these areas during massage, youâre bound to turn her on quickly.
Take your time. You want your partner to fully relax and open herself up to you. This will take time and patience, but the results are totally worth it.
Use massage oils. To increase the intensity of your touch, and to make it easier to glide your hands across your loverâs skin, you should consider using a massage oil. Oils come in many different types, such as water-based and synthetic. You can even get scented oils, like lavender or vanilla.
Incorporate sex toys. An erotic massage should focus largely on soft, sensual touches. That doesnât mean you canât add in a sex toy or two from time to time. A clitoral stimulator, nipple clamps, or even a feather â these can add that extra jolt of pleasure that your partner craves.
Do you want to earn extra points with your lover? Give her an erotic massage without the thought of getting anything in return. This gives her a chance to really relax and enjoy herself. It also helps you to build your emotional bond.
Sex Toys
I mentioned sex toys in the previous section. Theyâre certainly an interesting addition to an erotic massage session, but you can also add them to your usual foreplay routine.
With so many sex toys to choose from, thereâs bound to be one thatâs right for her. Do you need some inspiration? Here are a few types:
Dildo. Who doesnât love a good olâ fashioned dildo? Dildos come in many shapes and sizes, so you and your partner can explore the many options to her heartâs content.
Vibrator. Do you want to bring your partner from zero to 60 in no time at all? A vibrator can help you to achieve that, and so much more. Vibrators are a great way to sensitize her already sensitive spots (e.g. clitoris, nipples, vulva), and they can make her later climax even more intense.
Paddles and whips. Are you and your partner interested in mild BDSM? Then paddles and whips are a great start.
Restraints and blindfolds. An easy way to add suspense to your foreplay is with restraints and blindfolds. Use them to restrict her hands so you can explore her body freely. Or blindfold her as you make her guess just where on her body your mouth will go next.
It may take a few tries to find the toy thatâs right for her.
Get in the Right Position
You can make your girl squirt with just about any sex position. There are some positions which are more conducive to squirting than others, though. This is because these positions hit the g-spot just right.
So which positions can you use to bring your woman unimaginable pleasure? Hereâs a look at just a few.
Missionary
While it may seem âboring,â missionary is actually a great position for first-time squirters.
Why? Missionary puts the man at just the right angle to hit her g-spot. But it also means the couple is face to face, and this is important for women whoâre still uncomfortable with the idea of squirting.
As mentioned above, squirting is just as much about the emotional connection as itâs the physical. If you and your partner are new to squirting, the best thing you can do is to encourage the emotional connection.
Butterfly
If youâre looking for a âsexierâ take on missionary, then the butterfly sex position is a good bet.
In the butterfly position, the woman will lie flat on her back with her butt at the very edge of the bed. The man will then approach her from the front and slide his hands under her buttocks to tilt her slightly. The woman will place her feet on both shoulders, and the man can then penetrate her.
This position allows for deeper penetration. The manâs hand on the womanâs buttocks also allows him to massage a very sensual place which itself is very erotic.
Cowgirl
Does your woman want to take control? After all, itâs a great way to get her comfortable and this may make it easier for her to squirt. If so, then cowgirl position is a great way to do so!
In cowgirl position, the man lies on his back. The woman straddles his hips so his erect penis is just below her pussy. She can then slowly guide his penis into her vagina and slide down the shaft.
With cowgirl position, the woman can ride with abandon. When sheâs tired, the man can also take over by pumping.
The great thing about this position is the woman can adjust herself on her manâs penis until sheâs hitting just the right angle. She can also ensure that the clitoris and the g-spot get some action for an out-of-this-world climax.
Reverse Cowgirl
The cowgirl position is a great way to stare into your partnerâs eyes as she grinds on your dick. But the reverse cowgirl can offer some great advantages, too.
As you might have guessed, reverse cowgirl requires the woman to straddle the manâs hips with her back facing towards him. The woman can then ride the manâs dick to her pleasure.
Itâs not often that the manâs penis will be in his woman at this angle. This means it can hit new areas within her pussy and bring her to new levels of joy. And depending on the shape of your penis, it may even be easier for your penis to hit her g-spot from this angle.
Do you want to make it even more likely for your partner to squirt? In reverse cowgirl, you can reach around her hips and lightly flick her clitoris. You can use the other hand to gently squeeze and tease her nipples.
The Pushup
You may have tried the positions above, but you donât seem to be hitting her sweet spot. What now?
The pushup position is similar to the missionary position in that the woman lies on her back while the man penetrates her. The difference is in her leg position (her legs are wrapped loosely around him in this position) and in her pelvic angle.
If youâre unable to hit her g-spot while in missionary, then the pushup position is for you. This is because you can easily tilt her pelvis to the exact right angle for her needs. Just place a pillow or wedge underneath her buttocks. She can then position herself until youâre hitting her g-spot just right...
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In technical terms, squirting is defined as âthe discharge of a noticeable amount of fluid from the urethra.â This occurs after a variable time of sexual stimulation, and itâs often linked to g-spot stimulation.
Is Squirting Real?
Now that you know how squirting is defined, letâs answer the question that many men and women wonder: âIs squirting real?â
The short answer? Yes.
Now for the long answer: Squirting is a real, scientifically confirmed phenomena. It occurs when a gush of liquid flows from the urethra during sexual excitation, and it may or may not occur at the same time as an orgasm.
The confusion doesnât seem to be around whether squirting is real or not. Instead, it seems to be based around the definition of squirting and exactly what squirting is. For years, itâs been believed that the fluid associated with squirting is urine. That is, a woman who squirts is actually urinating during sexual stimulation.
The real composition of squirting fluid is more complicated than that, however. Itâs true that the fluid associated with squirting does come from the bladder. In addition, it contains urea, creatinine, and uric acid, all of which are found in urine. But thatâs not the only things found in the fluids. In fact, a particularly protein which is associated with male ejaculation, Prostate-specific antigen (PSA), is also found in the fluid produced from female squirting.
This protein is believed to come not from the urethra, but from the Skeneâs gland. The Skeneâs gland (or more accurately, Skeneâs glands) are glands located on the anterior wall of the vagina, near the base of the urethraâs opening. Itâs believed that the Skeneâs gland releases its own fluids at the same time as the bladder. This is what marks the difference between a woman urinating and a woman squirting.
4 Myths Associated with Squirting
There are a lot of misconceptions about squirting, especially as its portrayed by the media. But Iâm here to clear up the confusion.
Myth #1: Squirting is Fake
I covered this briefly above in the section on âIs Squirting Real?â But thereâs no doubt that this myth requires further discussion. The most common association that many men and women have with squirting is what theyâve seen in pornography. Just as with anything else portrayed in pornography, though, squirting is dramatized.
The woman in pornography often have torrential, gushing squirts that seem to go on forever. They will also often convey the fact that theyâre having the most intense orgasm of their life at the same time.
Itâs true that the amount of squirting which happens will vary from woman to woman, and even from session to session. But letâs get one thing clear: The squirting thatâs portrayed in pornography is often far from reality.
So will your partner have an intense squirting climax that leaves you, herself, your bed, and everything within 10 feet drenched in her fluids? Unlikely. That doesnât mean that squirting is fake, though.
It helps if you think of squirting in pornography the same way you think of orgasms. You know orgasms are real, but theyâre overplayed by pornography models. The same can be said for squirting, but this shouldnât discourage you from getting your partner to squirt.
Myth #2: Only a âcertain typeâ of woman can squirt
Itâs true that pornography has seriously altered the way men and women view sex. A particular way in which its done so is by portraying a certain image of a woman who can squirt.
Squirting is often thought to be a rare phenomena, and one that only âexperiencedâ woman can achieve. The truth is that just about any woman can squirt under the right circumstances.
Myth #3: If she squirted, she orgasmed
Itâs commonly thought that squirting = orgasm. But as many squirters will tell you, thatâs not always the case.
Is is possible to squirt and orgasm simultaneously? Of course! Itâs not a requirement that you orgasm at the same time as you squirt, however. In fact, many women can squirt multiple times before they reach climax. Howâs that for amazing?!
There are things you can do to increase the chances of her having a squirting orgasm, though itâs never guaranteed. A few tips include:
Stimulating her clitoris
Practice edging
Use a sex toy (e.g. vibrator, nipple clamps, etc.)
If you canât get her to squirt and orgasm at the same time, does that mean youâve failed? Absolutely not! It may be that your partner just isnât conditioned to do that. Or perhaps you and her just need to get more practice (*wink, wink*).
Myth #4: Squirting can only occur with g-spot stimulation
Thereâs no doubt that for many women g-spot stimulation is the easiest way to get her to squirt. Itâs not the only way, however. The g-spot is the fleshy nub located towards the opening of the vagina. When the woman is aroused, the g-spot will even fill with blood and seemingly grow larger.
Does this sound familiar? If you know anything about female anatomy, then this may sound similar to how the clitoris fills with blood during female arousal.
Why? Because the g-spot is actually thought to be an extension of the clitoris.
When we speak of the clitoris, weâre referring to the small, spongy structure at the top of the vulva. This is only just a small part of the clitoris, though, as the majority of it is internal. So even if your girl is only used to squirting from g-spot stimulation, it may be a lot easier to get her to squirt from clitoral stimulation than you both think.
In some cases, you may even get her to squirt with nipple stimulation or anal intercourse. So if you and your girl are happy with the way things currently are, great. But you can also play around with a few other techniques to see if you can get her to squirt in different ways.
How to Get Her to Squirt
Are you interested in bringing your female partner to a squirting orgasm? Or maybe youâre a female who wants to experience one herself. Letâs look at ways to make that happen.
Get Her in the Right Frame of Mind
Squirting is just as much (if not more) about the emotional connection as itâs the physical connection. This is why itâs crucial that you get your partner in the right frame of mind if you want her to squirt.
What does this mean?
The act of squirting is a very intimate experience. It leaves her in a vulnerable position, and itâs often thought of as shameful. This is why you must have your partnerâs full trust before you move forward.
How can you gain her trust?
Reassure her. Itâs unfortunate, but many women think of squirting as a shameful act. This is why you must reassure her that you want her to enjoy herself fully. You should also let her know you arenât worry about the âmessâ associated with squirting.
Talk about her fears. What is she most worried about? Is she scared youâll make fun of her? Or maybe sheâs concerned about the mess. Once you know what her hangups are, you can confront them head on.
Make yourself vulnerable. How can you expect her to be vulnerable if you arenât vulnerable in return? So open up to your partner about your own insecurities and fears. You may even consider doing some sex acts that you may have previously been uncomfortable with if it means opening yourself up more emotionally and physically to her.
And remember that actions speak louder than words. You must back up everything you say with your actions if you want her to truly feel comfortable opening herself up to you.
Get Her Warmed Up
Once sheâs prepared emotionally, itâs time to get her physically ready to squirt. One way to do so is with extensive foreplay. Foreplay is an important part of any sexual encounter.
It gives the woman time to get into the right headspace, and it also prepares her physically by ensuring she has enough natural lubricant. While foreplay can sometimes seem like a chore, especially if youâre ready to go, itâs a great way to build up that sexual tension and ensure a more explosive climax for the both of you.
Makeout Session
Did you think that steamy makeout sessions were just for teens? Think again!
A hot makeout session can be a great way to get your partner warmed up and ready to go. The lips are a very sensual spot, after all. But a makeout session is also a fun way to show her just how much you want her.
So if youâre looking to build the anticipation, then add a makeout session to your list.
Erotic Massage
Is your partner particularly tense? If she sensitive to touch? Or perhaps sheâs just always up for something new. Erotic massage is the answer to all of the above, and more!
Man giving woman a back massage
The good news is that erotic massage is very easy to do with very little training. There are tips, however, that can make this time even more special for your partner. For example:
Learn about the erogenous zones. The erogenous zones are the most sensitive spots of a womanâs body. They include the obvious (e.g. nipples, clitoris) and the not-so-obvious (e.g. ears, neck, arch of the back). If you pay special attention to these areas during massage, youâre bound to turn her on quickly.
Take your time. You want your partner to fully relax and open herself up to you. This will take time and patience, but the results are totally worth it.
Use massage oils. To increase the intensity of your touch, and to make it easier to glide your hands across your loverâs skin, you should consider using a massage oil. Oils come in many different types, such as water-based and synthetic. You can even get scented oils, like lavender or vanilla.
Incorporate sex toys. An erotic massage should focus largely on soft, sensual touches. That doesnât mean you canât add in a sex toy or two from time to time. A clitoral stimulator, nipple clamps, or even a feather â these can add that extra jolt of pleasure that your partner craves.
Do you want to earn extra points with your lover? Give her an erotic massage without the thought of getting anything in return. This gives her a chance to really relax and enjoy herself. It also helps you to build your emotional bond.
Sex Toys
I mentioned sex toys in the previous section. Theyâre certainly an interesting addition to an erotic massage session, but you can also add them to your usual foreplay routine.
With so many sex toys to choose from, thereâs bound to be one thatâs right for her. Do you need some inspiration? Here are a few types:
Dildo. Who doesnât love a good olâ fashioned dildo? Dildos come in many shapes and sizes, so you and your partner can explore the many options to her heartâs content.
Vibrator. Do you want to bring your partner from zero to 60 in no time at all? A vibrator can help you to achieve that, and so much more. Vibrators are a great way to sensitize her already sensitive spots (e.g. clitoris, nipples, vulva), and they can make her later climax even more intense.
Paddles and whips. Are you and your partner interested in mild BDSM? Then paddles and whips are a great start.
Restraints and blindfolds. An easy way to add suspense to your foreplay is with restraints and blindfolds. Use them to restrict her hands so you can explore her body freely. Or blindfold her as you make her guess just where on her body your mouth will go next.
It may take a few tries to find the toy thatâs right for her.
Get in the Right Position
You can make your girl squirt with just about any sex position. There are some positions which are more conducive to squirting than others, though. This is because these positions hit the g-spot just right.
So which positions can you use to bring your woman unimaginable pleasure? Hereâs a look at just a few.
Missionary
While it may seem âboring,â missionary is actually a great position for first-time squirters.
Why? Missionary puts the man at just the right angle to hit her g-spot. But it also means the couple is face to face, and this is important for women whoâre still uncomfortable with the idea of squirting.
As mentioned above, squirting is just as much about the emotional connection as itâs the physical. If you and your partner are new to squirting, the best thing you can do is to encourage the emotional connection.
Butterfly
If youâre looking for a âsexierâ take on missionary, then the butterfly sex position is a good bet.
In the butterfly position, the woman will lie flat on her back with her butt at the very edge of the bed. The man will then approach her from the front and slide his hands under her buttocks to tilt her slightly. The woman will place her feet on both shoulders, and the man can then penetrate her.
This position allows for deeper penetration. The manâs hand on the womanâs buttocks also allows him to massage a very sensual place which itself is very erotic.
Cowgirl
Does your woman want to take control? After all, itâs a great way to get her comfortable and this may make it easier for her to squirt. If so, then cowgirl position is a great way to do so!
In cowgirl position, the man lies on his back. The woman straddles his hips so his erect penis is just below her pussy. She can then slowly guide his penis into her vagina and slide down the shaft.
With cowgirl position, the woman can ride with abandon. When sheâs tired, the man can also take over by pumping.
The great thing about this position is the woman can adjust herself on her manâs penis until sheâs hitting just the right angle. She can also ensure that the clitoris and the g-spot get some action for an out-of-this-world climax.
Reverse Cowgirl
The cowgirl position is a great way to stare into your partnerâs eyes as she grinds on your dick. But the reverse cowgirl can offer some great advantages, too.
As you might have guessed, reverse cowgirl requires the woman to straddle the manâs hips with her back facing towards him. The woman can then ride the manâs dick to her pleasure.
Itâs not often that the manâs penis will be in his woman at this angle. This means it can hit new areas within her pussy and bring her to new levels of joy. And depending on the shape of your penis, it may even be easier for your penis to hit her g-spot from this angle.
Do you want to make it even more likely for your partner to squirt? In reverse cowgirl, you can reach around her hips and lightly flick her clitoris. You can use the other hand to gently squeeze and tease her nipples.
The Pushup
You may have tried the positions above, but you donât seem to be hitting her sweet spot. What now?
The pushup position is similar to the missionary position in that the woman lies on her back while the man penetrates her. The difference is in her leg position (her legs are wrapped loosely around him in this position) and in her pelvic angle.
If youâre unable to hit her g-spot while in missionary, then the pushup position is for you. This is because you can easily tilt her pelvis to the exact right angle for her needs. Just place a pillow or wedge underneath her buttocks. She can then position herself until youâre hitting her g-spot just right...
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