Anal Eroticism is surrounded by a powerful taboo. Yet millions of men and women straight, gay and bisexual are      experimenting with anal sex. The anus, richly endowed with nerve endings and interconnected with the main pelvic      muscles, is the closest erogenous neighbor of the genitals and contracts rhythmically during orgasm. Thirty      ago, Kinsey stated that the anal region had erotic significance for about half of the population. In a survey of 100,000      Play***** readers, 47 percent of the men and 61 percent of the women admitted to having tried anal intercourse.         Yet the anal taboo inhibits most people from thinking, talking and learning about the sexual use of the anus. Listed here      are the ten things most men and women still do not know about anal sex.         1. Anal intercourse is the least practiced form of anal sex.         There are many ways to enjoy the anus erotically. The most common techniques include touching the anal opening while      masturbating or stimulating a partner's anus during intercourse or oral sex.         Some people enjoy the sensation of a finger their own or a lover's insinuated into their anal opening and gently      rotated. Others may prefer the insertion of a dildo or vibrator beyond the anal opening and short anal canal into the       larger rectum. Many men, including heterosexuals, prefer this form of penetration.         Oralanal lovemaking is popularly known as rimming. The very idea disgusts some people. Others enjoy performing it      or allowing themselves to be probed in this special way.         2. Anal stimulation, including intercourse, is not *****ful if done properly.         The belief that anal stimulation, especially intercourse, has to ***** is a persistent and dangerous myth. Just as *****      anywhere in the body indicates that something is wrong, so is the same true of the anal area. With its ***** concentration      of nerve endings, the anus can produce extreme agony when it is mistreated. Yet it can be a source of great pleasure.         When a finger, object or penis is introduced into the anus, the anal muscles go into spasm, as if fighting off an invasion.      Pain will result if the partners do not wait for these muscles to relax. Under sufficient stress they will eventually collapse      and the ***** subside, unless further damage is done. But, any 'pleasure' afforded from this kind of activity derives mostly      from the absence of discomfort.         Maximum anal pleasure requires the elimination of all ***** or physical trauma from the anal experience. Selfprotection      on the part of the passive partner involves being ready to say "no" until he or she is ready to proceed. Readiness is a      combination of physical relaxation, usually helped along by plenty of leisurely anal touching, and desire.         Occasionally the anal muscles are relaxes, but the passive partner is still not in the mood. Stimulation should mount only      in proportion to the degree of receptivity.         3. Anal sex can be enjoyed even if it has been consistently uncomfortable in the past.         Sufficient desire alone does not necessarily guarantee pleasurable anal sex. Nor is an uncomfortable previous      experience always the reason for a lack of interest in or desire for anal sex.         Chronic anal tension is the most common cause of anal discomfort during sex. Hemorrhoids and constipation are usually      a sign of this condition. Tension can be relieved by touching the anus and becoming more familiar with it. An ideal time      to explore the anal opening is while taking a shower or bath. Deep breathing also affects the anal muscles. Tensing the      anus and the letting go in another way of learning to relax it. Anyone who enjoys masturbation might want to experiment      with some form of anal stimulation, though he or she should stop if any discomfort occurs.         For many people the turning point in anal sex is when they allow a partner to massage the anus with the understanding      that intercourse will not be attempted. Then the recipient of anal caresses can concentrate solely on the pleasure that this      erogenous zone is capable of generating.         4. Two muscle rings called sphincters surround the anal opening. Each functions independently.         If you insert a finger about one halfinch into your anus and press your fingertip against the side, you can clearly feel the      two sphincter muscles. There is less than a quarterinch between them. The external sphincter is controlled by the      central nervous system just like the muscles of the hand, for example. You can readily tense and relax this sphincter      whenever you want.         The internal sphincter is quite different. This muscle is controlled by the or autonomic part of the nervous      system, which governs such functions as heart***** and stress response.         The internal sphincter reflects and responds to fear and anxiety during anal sex. It will cause the anus to tense up      automatically even if the passive partner is trying to relax. Thus, precautions about safety and comfort are essential here.        Even if a person does feel comfortable during anal sex, he or she may still need to learn voluntary control over his or her      internal sphincter in order to relax it at will. Doing so requires regularly inserting a finger, perhaps in the shower each      day, and feeling the internal sphincter. The muscle changes spontaneously and in response to behavior. In this instance,      simply paying attention is more important than trying to relax. Anyone can gradually learn to control the internal      sphincter at will.         5. Anal stimulation provides many kinds of pleasure         The *****est concentration of nerve endings is around the anal opening itself. A finger can focus on them especially      effectively. When an object or penis is inserted beyond the anal opening into the rectum, other pleasures are involved.      The outer portion of the rectum, like the vagina, has several nerve endings. The inner portion responds mostly to      pressure.         Some people enjoy the feelings of pressure and fullness once they understand that these sensations do not presage an      impending bowel movement. Rectal pressure is especially important to enthusiasts of "fisting," a form of anal sex in      which several fingers or even the entire hand and forearm are inserted into the rectum and sometimes into the lower      colon.         In men, the prostate which is just beyond the rectal wall, a few inches in, towards the front of the body can be a      source of pleasure when massaged by a finger, an object, or a penis. Also, the lower end of the penis, or "bulb," is near      the anal opening opening. It is stimulated indirectly by most types of anal sex.         Anal pleasure can be psychological as well as physical. The anal taboo adds to the thrill of the forbidden. The most      common antianal message (it's dirty!) sometimes returns as a source of raunchy, sleazy excitement. Rimming enthusiasts      may enjoy the feeling that they are being disgustingly and delightfully perverse. Other people regard the anus as a      , special place. Sharing it with a partner is an act of openness and giving.         6. Anal stimulation can lead to orgasm         A *****ity of men and women can respond orgasmically to anal sex without direct genital stimulation. Women probably      do so through pelvic muscle contractions and a small *****ity even though the sheer excitement of being anally      penetrated. When men experience an orgasm from anal stimulation, they tend to focus on the prostate. No doubt they      are also responding to indirect stimulation of the penile bulb.         Orgasms from anal stimulation are most likely to occur when the participants become thoroughly absorbed in their      sensations and fantasies. An almost certain way to prevent such an orgasm is to be become determined to have one.      Seeking an anal orgasm will create new pressures and disrupt the pleasure.         It must be remembered that most people require direct genital stimulation in order to climax. On the other hand, a few      people have orgasms only with anal stimulation.         7. Diet contributes to the enjoyment of anal sex         Regular bowel movements are the major function of the anus and rectum. There must be sufficient fiber in a person's      *****t to make his or her ***** soft, bulky and well formed. This allows a bowel movement to be produced without *****      or effort. evacuations irritate anal tissues, causing discomfort and adding to muscular tensions. Fresh fruits,      vegetables, whole grains or unprocessed bran are important sources of fiber.         8. Different rules of hygiene apply to the vagina and rectum         Since intercourse can be vaginal or rectal, many people assume the the same rules apply for the penetration of the      vagina and rectum. Although both are lined with soft tissue and are capable of expanding, they are radically dissimilar.         The rectum is not straight. After the short anal canal which connects the anal opening to the rectum, the rectum tilts      toward the front of the body. A few inches in, it curves back sometimes as much as 90 degrees. Then, after a few      more inches, it swoops toward the front of the body once again. A person can learn about the shape of his or her      rectum by gently inserting a soft object, trying different angles and body positions and concentrating on how it feels.      Make sure the object has a flared base so that if you loose your grip, it won't slip into the rectum and become      irretrievable.         The rectum does not produce lubrication like the vagina but only a small amount of mucus. Therefore, rectal penetration      always requires a lubricant. Chemical additives should be avoided. Waterbased lubricants are latexcompatible.         The main function of the rectum is to act as a passageway for *****. But ***** are not normally stored in the rectum      except just prior to a bowel movement. Yet small amounts may remain in the rectum, especially if the ***** are not well      formed. Anal douching before lovemaking will help some people especially concerned with cleanliness to relax. For      others the idea of dirtiness heightens the joy of the forbidden; for them, douching is antierotic.         9. Anal intercourse is not necessarily an act of dominance and submission.         The topbottom imagery associated with anal intercourse is widespread. No doubt the belief that anal sex has to *****      contributes to this notion. And in fact some people are intensely excited by topbottom fantasies about anal sex. The      thought that they are submitting to such a degrading act is a terrific thrill. However, actual, not fantasized, anal ***** can      lead to trouble.         For others, the enjoyment of anal sex is inhibited by topbottom imagery. The idea of surrendering control, and perhaps      submitting to *****, causes immediate, protective tensing of the anal muscles. These individuals are more likely to      relax and enjoy themselves if they can learn to regard anal sex as pleasurable rather than as an expression of power.         10. Anal sex can be perfectly safe, even beneficial.         The taboo against anal eroticism is perpetuated by the almost universal belief among physicians that anal sex is inevitably      dangerous. No physical injury from anal stimulation results if both partners refuse to tolerate *****, never use ***** and      avoid the use of *****s.         All the other risks center on sexually transmitted diseases. Each of the common STDs gonorrhea, syphilis, herpes       can affect the anus. Intestinal parasites, bacteria or tiny bugs are usually ***** along when fecal matter finds its way      into someone's mouth or vagina, most likely through rimming.         AIDS has complicated the matter. The HIV virus can pass from the semen or ***** of an infected person to the      *****stream of a partner through a tiny break in the rectal tissue during anal intercourse.         To avoid this risk, anal intercourse and rimming should not be practiced casually. Those who do enjoy anal intercourse      should always use a condom. Rimming should always be accomplished by a latex barrier. Of course, in a monogamous      relationship with two healthy people, the risk of disease transmitted anally is reduced.         Thousands of men and women with chronic anal medical problems have restored their anal health by challenging their      negative attitudes. This approach is indispensable for full erotic enjoyment of the anus.