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Advice rant:

I used to flash. I don't anymore. I've been on Xhamster now for a few years, and there used to be a lot of male flashers, and there aren't so many anymore. The reason for that is that getting caught is a reality. I got caught, and it was the worst thing in my life. Luckily, where I'm at, it takes three convictions to render a felony and be considered a sex offender. Nonetheless, I got caught.

After everything was said and done, I paid upwards of $8,000 in court costs, fees, restitution, mandatory counseling, attorney fees, polygraph examinations, penile plethysmograph exams, and that was four years ago. I'm currently going through the expungement process which just cost me another $800, and may cost more if the prosecutors say no to my expungement appeal and I'll need to have a hearing or maybe hearings. All that for showing a completely flacid penis to someone.

On top of all that, my name is all over the internet now. I'm a totally average joe with no special traits or skills, so my name isn't all over the internet for anything else. So, even with my case expunged, a simple name search on google and it's still all there. I'll never live it down. I will continue to pay for it for the rest of my life. Everyone I know will eventually know what I did somehow, some way.

Plus, there's the nature of exposure. The recidivism rate (rate of re-offending) is higher for exposure than any other sex crime. Simply put- its addicting. You start off thinking that it'll be just once. Pretty soon you're spending hours driving around, just for "one more." Never once did I ever get a positive reaction to it. Not even a smile. So every single time I exposed, I ended up completely frustrated, never wanting to quit, always with the hope that someone will want to see it, and it never happened. No matter how many women I showed my dick to, it was never enough. I never got a good fix, and the addiction just grew and grew, until I made a mistake and wound up getting caught. Even after getting caught, and thinking, "I'll never do this again," I still struggle with it daily. Intentionally wearing pants too tight, flashing nurses, walking into stores with a noticeable erection, peeing in public forest preserves in front of women- stuff like that. It never ends. Even stuff that isn't exposure related, but is just sexually risky, like getting caught looking down women's shirts, or leering intentionally, staring at women's breasts and then making eye contact, I struggle with that stuff all the time. One of these days, if i don't get it under control, I'll end up going through this ordeal all over again. It has changed and ruined my life.

Simply put, its not worth it. Don't do it. Put your dick away. If you need to expose to someone, pay for an online video chat service and show your dick to a Russian hooker online. Don't drive around masturbating under the pretense that you've got it all figured out and you won't get caught. You will, eventually. And you will pay dearly.