WHY EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE PLAYS A BIG PART
WHY EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE PLAYS A BIG PART IN SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIPS
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Emotional intelligence is defined as having the âcapacity to be aware of, control, and express oneâs emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically,â according to the Oxford Dictionary. When it comes to successful relationships, that sure sounds like traits that everyone should possess, right?
Hereâs the thing, though, far too often we all get wrapped up in our own minds worrying about acceptance, or comparisons, or if weâre good enough for someone else, make enough money and yada, yada, yada. Enough with all that BS, fellas, because what makes a strong relationship isnât just about compromise and patience and what you have with your girlfriend, itâs understanding yourself and your surroundings. In essence, itâs having strong emotional intelligence.
Itâs not easy to always âbe on,â if you will, where you have everything figured out and youâre calm as a cucumber all the time. Thatâs not possible, no matter how content you think you might be. Life throws curveballs, and itâs just a matter of how you react to them that allow you to come out stronger.
When it comes to relationships, having emotional intelligence not only allows you to stay even-keeled and positive, but it also allows you to live in the moment, avoiding negative thoughts about what might be next with your girlfriend, thinking too far ahead or worrying that something might be going on. Itâs seizing the opportunity for what itâs worth and making the best of it.
Since many of us can struggle with identifying and living a life of emotional intelligence â especially in relationships â weâre giving you ways to improve your own in order to live your happiest life. Trust us, these will alleviate stress or anxiety inside your own head.
EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE COMES FROM ACCEPTING NEGATIVE EMOTIONS
As mentioned above, your life will never, ever be perfect. Even if you go out and win the Powerball lottery and become a millionaire overnight, guess what, youâre still going to have the same problems in your life as you did yesterday â but will just have a lot more money in the bank now.
The best way to gaining emotional intelligence is to accept those negative emotions you have and work on them. Lifeâs a struggle, guys, and nobody said it was going to be fair. So when you and your girlfriend are going through a rough patch, you can either get down in the dumps and stress about it, or you can accept the feelings you and her are having, learn from them, talk about them and grow together. Thatâs a great feeling when it happens.
LEARNING HOW TO CONTROL YOUR THOUGHTS WILL HELP YOUR EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
Weâre not talking about psychoanalysis or some trendy thing that will make your brain block things out, because, to our knowledge, thatâs not possible. What is possible is understanding when to tell your mind to stop. Much like you know how to control your mouth before speaking, so, too, can you control your mind before thinking.
For example, when youâre sitting at work, you can either stand on your desk and shout obscenities to the entire office. You know not to do that, though. Similarly, when you feel down in the dumps about something in your relationship, rather than go down a rabbit hole and creating more anxiety for yourself, identify where the thoughtâs coming from and cut it off before it grows into a full-fledged problem.
ALLOWING YOURSELF TO EXPRESS YOURSELF WILL HELP WITH YOUR EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
There will be times where you need to just express yourself, and thatâs normal (and good!), so donât hold it back. The last thing you want to do is bottle up any pent up bitterness, jealousy or straight-up anger about something in a relationship, because thatâs doing a disservice to both you and your girlfriend.
Part of being emotional intelligent is understanding how to communicate some of these issues youâre having without being abrasive or judgmental. Itâs taking the time to think deeper about yourself and your partner and knowing what is and isnât worth working out, so not to escalate things even more.
Nobodyâs perfect, so part of having emotional intelligence is accepting that and choosing your battles for the good of the relationship. Itâs asking yourself, âwill this help or hurt us?â before ever mentioning something. If youâre not growing the relationship, youâre smart enough to know not to always speak up.
BE KIND TO YOURSELF, BECAUSE THATâS ONE OF THE BEST WAYS TO BUILD EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
This is one of the best lessons to learn about emotional intelligence, because youâre going to go through rough patches in relationships, and youâre going to have to overcome them if you want to work things out and stay together.
As mentioned earlier, itâs easy to fall into the trap of comparing yourself to others, wondering why youâre not doing this or that, but part of having emotional intelligence is understanding that youâre gifted and talented in other things, and that your relationship (no matter how it may appear to others), works for you and your girlfriend. So be kind to yourself and stop running in circles trying to find something perfect that doesnât exist. Accept what you have, be grateful for it and enjoy the ride â your mind will appreciate you for it.
https://sugarcookie.com/2019/03/emotional-intelligence-impacts-relationships/
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Emotional intelligence is defined as having the âcapacity to be aware of, control, and express oneâs emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically,â according to the Oxford Dictionary. When it comes to successful relationships, that sure sounds like traits that everyone should possess, right?
Hereâs the thing, though, far too often we all get wrapped up in our own minds worrying about acceptance, or comparisons, or if weâre good enough for someone else, make enough money and yada, yada, yada. Enough with all that BS, fellas, because what makes a strong relationship isnât just about compromise and patience and what you have with your girlfriend, itâs understanding yourself and your surroundings. In essence, itâs having strong emotional intelligence.
Itâs not easy to always âbe on,â if you will, where you have everything figured out and youâre calm as a cucumber all the time. Thatâs not possible, no matter how content you think you might be. Life throws curveballs, and itâs just a matter of how you react to them that allow you to come out stronger.
When it comes to relationships, having emotional intelligence not only allows you to stay even-keeled and positive, but it also allows you to live in the moment, avoiding negative thoughts about what might be next with your girlfriend, thinking too far ahead or worrying that something might be going on. Itâs seizing the opportunity for what itâs worth and making the best of it.
Since many of us can struggle with identifying and living a life of emotional intelligence â especially in relationships â weâre giving you ways to improve your own in order to live your happiest life. Trust us, these will alleviate stress or anxiety inside your own head.
EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE COMES FROM ACCEPTING NEGATIVE EMOTIONS
As mentioned above, your life will never, ever be perfect. Even if you go out and win the Powerball lottery and become a millionaire overnight, guess what, youâre still going to have the same problems in your life as you did yesterday â but will just have a lot more money in the bank now.
The best way to gaining emotional intelligence is to accept those negative emotions you have and work on them. Lifeâs a struggle, guys, and nobody said it was going to be fair. So when you and your girlfriend are going through a rough patch, you can either get down in the dumps and stress about it, or you can accept the feelings you and her are having, learn from them, talk about them and grow together. Thatâs a great feeling when it happens.
LEARNING HOW TO CONTROL YOUR THOUGHTS WILL HELP YOUR EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
Weâre not talking about psychoanalysis or some trendy thing that will make your brain block things out, because, to our knowledge, thatâs not possible. What is possible is understanding when to tell your mind to stop. Much like you know how to control your mouth before speaking, so, too, can you control your mind before thinking.
For example, when youâre sitting at work, you can either stand on your desk and shout obscenities to the entire office. You know not to do that, though. Similarly, when you feel down in the dumps about something in your relationship, rather than go down a rabbit hole and creating more anxiety for yourself, identify where the thoughtâs coming from and cut it off before it grows into a full-fledged problem.
ALLOWING YOURSELF TO EXPRESS YOURSELF WILL HELP WITH YOUR EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
There will be times where you need to just express yourself, and thatâs normal (and good!), so donât hold it back. The last thing you want to do is bottle up any pent up bitterness, jealousy or straight-up anger about something in a relationship, because thatâs doing a disservice to both you and your girlfriend.
Part of being emotional intelligent is understanding how to communicate some of these issues youâre having without being abrasive or judgmental. Itâs taking the time to think deeper about yourself and your partner and knowing what is and isnât worth working out, so not to escalate things even more.
Nobodyâs perfect, so part of having emotional intelligence is accepting that and choosing your battles for the good of the relationship. Itâs asking yourself, âwill this help or hurt us?â before ever mentioning something. If youâre not growing the relationship, youâre smart enough to know not to always speak up.
BE KIND TO YOURSELF, BECAUSE THATâS ONE OF THE BEST WAYS TO BUILD EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
This is one of the best lessons to learn about emotional intelligence, because youâre going to go through rough patches in relationships, and youâre going to have to overcome them if you want to work things out and stay together.
As mentioned earlier, itâs easy to fall into the trap of comparing yourself to others, wondering why youâre not doing this or that, but part of having emotional intelligence is understanding that youâre gifted and talented in other things, and that your relationship (no matter how it may appear to others), works for you and your girlfriend. So be kind to yourself and stop running in circles trying to find something perfect that doesnât exist. Accept what you have, be grateful for it and enjoy the ride â your mind will appreciate you for it.
https://sugarcookie.com/2019/03/emotional-intelligence-impacts-relationships/
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