Boytoy
"My girlfriend gave me a blow-up doll as a fun birthday present. I have tried it and I found the sex is better with it than with her."
A comment read:
"It takes two people to have sex, op. So it is not correct to label this as āherā fail: it should be āourā fail. If your sex is so bad that an inanimate object with no emotional or romantic connection to you gives you more pleasure, then several things are happening that shouldnāt be or vice versa:
1) You havenāt bothered talking to your girlfriend about what you want to change in your sex life. If you canāt or wonāt do this, then you are not really in a relationship at all.
2) You are possibly seeing sex as purely a physical pleasure, so you may as well not be in any relationship at all. Why are you in a relationship if you donāt have an emotional connection?
3) You have no qualms about slating your girlfriend about her lack of sexual prowess on the internet, which tells me not only that you really donāt talk to each other about stuff like this, but also that you have a fundamental lack of respect for her. Again, why are you in a relationship with her if you donāt respect her? Doesnāt sound like itās for the sex.
4) You also have no qualms about laying the blame completely with your girlfriend rather than admitting that if the sex isnāt good, itās as much your fault as hers. Have you given her a good reason to make sex enjoyable for you? Whenever I havenāt found sex enjoyable in the past, Iāve eventually realised that if I try a bit harder to make it more enjoyable for my partner, heās far more likely to make more of an effort to please me. And donāt forget that sex is MUCH more enjoyable if the other person is enjoying it than if they just lie there like a sack of potatoes. Or, indeed, a blow-up doll.
So why not either break up with her so she can find a less selfish lover, or tell her what would make sex better for you? You might even want to include your doll ā your GF might enjoy that as much as you do, you never know! There are plenty of sex tips websites and forums on the internet if you want ideas to spice things up or advice on how to broach the subject with your lover.
All of the above, by the way, applies equally to men and women and to both halves of any relationship."
Amen and out
A comment read:
"It takes two people to have sex, op. So it is not correct to label this as āherā fail: it should be āourā fail. If your sex is so bad that an inanimate object with no emotional or romantic connection to you gives you more pleasure, then several things are happening that shouldnāt be or vice versa:
1) You havenāt bothered talking to your girlfriend about what you want to change in your sex life. If you canāt or wonāt do this, then you are not really in a relationship at all.
2) You are possibly seeing sex as purely a physical pleasure, so you may as well not be in any relationship at all. Why are you in a relationship if you donāt have an emotional connection?
3) You have no qualms about slating your girlfriend about her lack of sexual prowess on the internet, which tells me not only that you really donāt talk to each other about stuff like this, but also that you have a fundamental lack of respect for her. Again, why are you in a relationship with her if you donāt respect her? Doesnāt sound like itās for the sex.
4) You also have no qualms about laying the blame completely with your girlfriend rather than admitting that if the sex isnāt good, itās as much your fault as hers. Have you given her a good reason to make sex enjoyable for you? Whenever I havenāt found sex enjoyable in the past, Iāve eventually realised that if I try a bit harder to make it more enjoyable for my partner, heās far more likely to make more of an effort to please me. And donāt forget that sex is MUCH more enjoyable if the other person is enjoying it than if they just lie there like a sack of potatoes. Or, indeed, a blow-up doll.
So why not either break up with her so she can find a less selfish lover, or tell her what would make sex better for you? You might even want to include your doll ā your GF might enjoy that as much as you do, you never know! There are plenty of sex tips websites and forums on the internet if you want ideas to spice things up or advice on how to broach the subject with your lover.
All of the above, by the way, applies equally to men and women and to both halves of any relationship."
Amen and out
13 years ago