A Few Responses from Her

I handle the majority of the requests, messages, etc. that we receive, but I thought it'd be nice for her to chime in on a few thoughts and questions we've received. So, approximately three or so months after I asked her to do so (k**ding, babe, I know you're busy lol), here are some of her thoughts and responses. Some of these are things that I've covered on our profile page but from HER perspective.

What was it that convinced you that you wanted to try swinging?
I think I was mostly convinced that I wanted to try it from the time he and I started talking about it. The big question in my mind was whether I could ever go through with it. I had some experiences with more than one guy at a time before we started dating that were very hot, but to me it's a completely different thing when you're married and have a family. So I guess I always knew I'd love to do it, it just took some time for me to say "okay, let's make this fantasy a reality." I guess if I was to pinpoint one single thing that sticks out in my mind that flipped that switch for me it was an experience we had while camming with another guy. My husband and I were going at it and the guy was stroking himself. It was almost like we were having a threesome in a weird way. It may sound silly, but when this guy came it just completely did it for me. He came so hard, and all over himself, and I knew that watching my husband and me on webcam was what got him to that point. It was almost like it was ME that made him cum. That experience tipped the scales for me and made me want to physically make another guy cum, not just from him watching me.

What's your favorite thing about swinging?
My husband and I have gotten infinitely closer since we started doing it, but I know that's not the part you want to hear lol! I love the process of discovery. Not that I don't absolutely love the relationships with people I/we play with regularly ( I DO!!!!), but there's something SO SO sexy about two people discovering each other's bodies and all that they have to offer for the first time. Naturally that doesn't happen nearly as often as all of the other playing we do, but when it does it's very special and very sexy to me! I consider myself very lucky to still be able to enjoy that process from time to time, because I think that's probably one of the things that people miss the most once they've gotten married and settled down. I guess our philosophy is: why should that have to end?

Any horror stories from playing with other people?
We've been pretty lucky so far. Of course, the fact that we take the time to get to know people before just jumping in the sack with them helps, I'm sure. We've had a few things not go quite as planned, and a few things that were more on the funny side, but no horror stories that I can think of. I'd have to say that the worst thing that ever happened was having to take a friend of ours to the ER because our beautiful dog, who has never displayed a mean bone in her body, latched onto his calf pretty well. I think it might have just been because my husband wasn't home at the time, because she had been around him plenty of times before. But whatever the case was, when he got to really pounding me she apparently decided that our dear friend was hurting mama and let him know that wasn't acceptable! I felt SO bad! And I know our pup felt bad too, but she was just protecting me. But yes, I had to take him to the ER (and tell quite a different story), and he required several shots and a dozen stitches! :-(

My husband and I have talked to a good friend of his about joining us, though nothing has happened yet. I'm excited but nervous. Any advice? Was it weird your first time?
My main advice would just be to make sure you think you're involving the right person. If this friend is a very trusted friend that both of you are comfortable with then everything else should take care of itself. Make sure you talk very openly beforehand, and I mean all THREE of you. Set any rules you and your husband may have and make sure nothing is left to doubt. I definitely understand being a little nervous. My biggest concern our first time (because it involved such a great friend) was that things might be weird afterwards. I didn't want to do ANYTHING that might jeopardize the friendship. We talked everything out with him and based on his answers, and knowing him as well as I did, I felt satisfied that it was something we could do for fun without damaging the friendship.

I gave him head that night as an "ice breaker" just to see how everyone felt afterwards before actually moving on to all out sex. I was very happy to find that nothing felt different at all after I got him off. It was kind of surprising to me, but I didn't feel any kind of regret whatsoever. Was it weird? I'd say yes. I mean, getting on your knees and unzipping someone other than your husband after so many years of having just him is going to be a little weird. But it was a good weird. I'd say "butterflies" was the biggest overall feeling I had. It was exciting! It felt so taboo! Feeling a different cock in my mouth felt SO sexy! To be perfectly honest I pretty much knew I wanted to keep exploring in the lifestyle from probably a minute into giving him head. It was just so hot to me. Just make sure you're involving someone you trust. Since our first experience with a good friend we've grown to prefer friends over strangers, but it's a very different approach, and one you need to be cautious with. Just do your homework and have your open conversations and you should be fine. Good luck, and let me know how it goes! :-)

Are you into cream pies?
Sure. A nice cream pie is definitely hot. Having said that, there are only a select few guys I will let do me bareback or cum inside of me. Safety first! I also often prefer to have the guy cum on me because I LOVE seeing how hard and how much I've made him cum!

Do you like playing with younger guys?
I LOVE playing with younger guys as long as their maturity level is up there enough. As an older woman the chances are good that I can do things to a younger guy that he's never had done to him before and really blow his mind. I also love how rock hard they get! Sometimes they do get off a little more quickly, but they typically recover very well and then have good stamina. I had one younger guy cum almost immediately after I started giving him head, but he recovered very nicely and we were able to go at it for a while! :-) Now, this is not to say that I've had sex with 50 younger guys, but the experiences I've had have been very hot and very worthwhile.

Do big cocks make you hot and horny?
I'd say that a more accurate statement would be that nice cocks make me hot and horny. Maybe I'm more visual than other women, but I like a guy with an aesthetically pleasing cock. Everything in proportion, nice head, maybe a few veins bulging in his erection. I've never been what people call a "size queen." I'd much rather play with a guy who has a bit smaller cock that's gorgeous than a guy with a huge cock that looks "alien." I also much prefer the feeling of being stretched than the feeling of being impaled! So when I think of nice size I think more of girth, not of length. I've had guys that were below what's considered average and guys who were well above it, but the bottom line for me has always been whether or not the guy is a good lover or not. I think this fixation on huge cocks is more of a male thing than a female thing. It's how guys size each other up, if that makes sense. Now, I do know that there are women out there who are all about size, but that's never been me. To me it's more about a great sexual experience overall. I guess if I had to pick my ideal cock it'd be one that's about 7 inches and very thick with a nice, beautiful head on top and nicely shaven balls at the bottom.

Do you like watching porn?
I do. I especially love the amateur stuff, particularly where couples are living out fantasies similar to what we have. I've always liked watching it, but my husband and I both got very tired of the terrible acting and stupid dialog. There were many times we'd put it on and just mute the TV in favor of music. Since there's so much more amateur stuff available now we enjoy it a lot more.

Do you like playing solo or in a group/threesomes better?
They're very different scenarios. I usually like playing better when my husband's there, even if he's not participating. Part of the reason we got into this lifestyle is because he likes watching me, and seeing him so turned on by what I'm doing with someone else is quite honestly the thing that gets me off the most about it. Now, when I play solo that has another very sexy affect on him, but it's just not quite the same as him being there and me being able to look over at him and give him "that look" while I'm being naughty.

Have you ever had a guy try to do something you didn't want to do when you play solo?
No, not so far. I guess I've been lucky. But we screen everything very well before any of that happens anyway, so I'm sure that helps. I know that doesn't necessarily prevent something from happening in the heat of the moment, but it certainly doesn't hurt. Even though I'm not a "dominant" or overly assertive girl by nature, I have no problem letting a guy know what the boundaries are. And trust me, if someone crossed the line that'd be the LAST time I had any kind of relations with him, period.

Have you ever been caught by someone you know when you play solo with another guy?
Kind of, but not in the actual act of doing something. It wasn't a planned meeting. I was shopping and ran into a guy who I played solo with before but hadn't seen in awhile. We got to talking and ended up out in his car where I gave him head, then talked a little more afterward. As I was shutting the door behind me I heard someone call my name and turned around to see a co-worker of mine walking up. I had to make up a quick story, but fortunately she bought it completely and never acted suspicious at all after that. I'm 100% certain that she didn't see me going down on him so I never thought much about it after that. That's the only real close call I can remember with someone I know.

When you play solo do you ever feel like there's a danger that you might get too attached to that person?
No. And as far as I know none of the guys I've played with on my own have entered that realm either -- at least not that they've ever mentioned to me. We're very, very selective about who I play with on my own, and I also make it VERY clear from the outset what is acceptable. I have a general rule for myself when I play alone: slutty, not sensual. What that basically means is that the focus is on me being naughty and the sex itself, and not any perceived intimacy. The more naughty and slutty the experience is, the less it feels like "making love," which is reserved for my husband only. I'm sure it's not a foolproof method for everyone, but it works for me. I have no desire to be emotionally attached to anyone but my husband.

Does it turn you on to cuckold your husband?
We've experimented with cuckolding, but I don't think anywhere near where some couples like to go with it. First of all, I would never degrade him. I'm not into that at all and it doesn't turn me on in the slightest. I've said things to him while we're having sex about how good another guy's cock makes me feel, how I'm craving a particular guy's cock, and I've told him how it turns me on to have sex with guys that are bigger than he is, but I would never put him down, tell him he's small (he's not) or anything like that. But I will say this, there have been times that I've denied him sex because I know I'm going to be having sex with someone else. BUT, that's just a little game I play because I know it drives him absolutely crazy! I'll tease him and get dressed/undressed in front of him, dress sexy, show a lot of cleavage, etc. but not let him touch me because I'm saving myself for so-n-so a few days from now. I've caved and given in a couple of times just because I got to the point where it drove ME too crazy too, but when I actually pull it off (and he's not allowed to jerk off either!) it's SOOOO sexy when he and I have sex after I've had my date/meeting/whatever! It's truly explosive, and I just LOVE how much he cums!

Are you a BBC slut?
I'm just a slut in general lol! No, ALL k**ding aside, I wouldn't say that I'm a BBC slut. At least not like what I've seen from other profiles on this site. I'm not a "slave" to BBC or only "crave" BBC or any of that nonsense. I imagine that to be some sexy game that couples play who are just really into it, which is fine by me. But let me just say this: In general, I do absolutely LOVE black cock! I've been lucky to have some very good experiences so far, and they have turned me on in ways that I never imagined before. I definitely DO miss it since my/our last regular moved away. That being said, I like men of all colors. If you're attractive, confident and know how to treat a woman then we'd get along just fine. I don't discriminate. :-)

Is jealousy ever a problem?
No, not for either of us. That kind of thing went out the window a LONG time ago. I will say that there was a time that I couldn't have even fathomed seeing my husband with someone else! And to be honest, when our first experience with another couple came about I was a little worried that I might not like what I saw. It surprised me tremendously that it was actually ME who was more into him being with another female than him. Not that he didn't enjoy himself, but I just found it so hot! That was my first glimpse into what HE must have been thinking all of those times that he watched me, and it was very sexy! He much prefers me being with other men than him being with other women, but I have to say that one of my favorite experiences is still the time (well, first time) that he had sex with a good female friend of mine/ours.

She wasn't quite 25 at the time, but we had been friends for quite awhile and I just loved her to death. Still do, but now she's married so none of that funny stuff lol! She had been broken up with her bf for several months and was over at our house having drinks. She and I always tended to get a little crazy when we drank together and I just "jokingly" brought up the idea. I'll be perfectly honest, I thought she was the cutest thing ever and was very attracted to her, but I didn't get ANY kind of bisexual vibe from her at all. BUT making a "joke" about my husband taking care of her needs didn't seem like it'd be too out of line. And on the off chance that something happened... let me just tell you, I was probably way more curious about seeing her naked than my husband even was... and trust me, he was curious lol! Well, to my surprise she made a comment to the effect of "oh, if only you wouldn't mind I could REALLY use that right now." Not exact words, but close enough.

So at that point we actually start seriously talking about it and I let her in on our "little secret" just enough for the situation. You should have seen the look on my husband's face when he came home and I told him that our friend needed his help with something... and then SHE told him what it was. He didn't believe it at all and thought we were both just seriously fucking with him. Well, the sex those two had was EXPLOSIVE! I don't know if I've ever been more turned on than that in my life! I know a huge part of it was that I was very attracted to her, and seeing her completely naked and actually doing a little playful touching drove me nuts! I still think she has the most delicious breasts I've ever seen. But enough of that lol! Let's just say that it was one of my favorite nights and that jealousy is most definitely not an issue lol!

Guess that covers it for now. Nice to put MY .02 out here once in awhile lol!

Best to all! :-)