Anal Sex Tips For Beginners

Are you new to anal sex?
If you’re new to anal sex or have had a painful/unpleasant experience in the past, you can take some steps to get used to being fucked and to maximise your pleasure. Here are some tips to help you.

Get comfortable

Fantasy positioning is great although it’s best to achieve the comfort before you attempt to conquer the fantasy.

Start on top

For many men in the receptive position (bottoms), it is best to start by squatting on top of the inserting partner. This gives you the control on the speed it enters, as well as the ability to stop or withdraw if you experience pain. Once your arse - and you - have accepted the penis and it is comfortable, then you will experience a greater success taking it when you move into other positions.

It's OK to push a little

The idea of pushing out as though you were having a shit while the penis is being inserted can bring up many negative thoughts and fears for many men. The muscles in your arse contract outward when it feels an object inside. By pushing outward this expands your sphincter enabling the penis to enter without the same level of resistance. Don’t push so hard that you do damage. With controlled breathing and the push-out technique you will find the insertion a lot easier and more comfortable.

What if I feel pain?

It is not uncommon to feel a cramp-like pain. There's no need to panic but there is a need to stop, not necessarily withdraw but to stop insertion for a moment. This feeling will usually subside within a minute or two, if it doesn’t then it’s time to pull out. Your arse will need time to adapt to having an object inserted and the muscles need to expand to accommodate. Rushing or being tense means the insertion won't feel as good as it should.

Train your arse
Developing your pubococcygeus (PC) muscle can enhance your sexual pleasure as well as improving your bowel movements. This is the muscle that stops your urine when you're going to the toilet. Strengthening your PC muscle means that you can use it during sex to have multiple orgasms by delaying ejaculation.

Inhale deeply as you can as you contract your PC muscle then exhale all the way and relax. Or inhale and pretend you’re sucking water into your rectum and genitals. Then exhale and bear down, pushing out the imaginary water. This is great for the abdominal muscles as well

Pelvic floor exercises can improve your erection and ejaculation as well as improving bladder and bowel control.

Sit, or lie comfortably with the muscles of your thighs, arse and stomach relaxed.
The first muscle to find is the one that can stop the flow of piss mid-stream then allow you to re-start it.
Now tighten the ring of muscle around your arsehole as if you are trying to control diarrhoea or wind. Relax it. Practice this movement several times until you are sure you are exercising the right muscles. Don’t squeeze your bottom cheeks together when you do this.
Tighten and drawing in the muscles around the anus and the urethra all at once. Lift them up inside. Try and hold this as you count to five then release and relax. You should have a definite feeling of ‘letting go’.