Oreos and Dating: Only White Women?
I'm a black man. I am devoid of most stereotypical black personality and character traits. Thus, I am an Oreo. In my world, if you are not acting "black," then you are acting "white."
When it comes to dating and sex, being an Oreo means that a) people will naturally assume you only date white women, and b) white people feel comfortable approaching you about black sexual culture. This usually leads to annoying questions, like...
... Do you only date white women?
NO! That would be stupid. I would be missing out on so many wonderful people if I made a decision like this. I don't choose my friends based on race, and I would never do the same when it comes to the females I date. I'm an Oreo, not a Black Republican.
That's not a shot towards black republicans, by the way. I understand the reasons why people have political affiliations, regardless of race. It's all about protecting your own interests. But being in Atlanta, I find it funny that black republicans are only with a) white women, or b) female Oreos.
Being an Oreo isn't about maintaining a certain lifestyle. It's just about not being stereotypically black, not falling in line with the typical profile. I'm not an Oreo because I chose it. I'm an Oreo because of how I was raised and influenced. I don't date based on race. I date based on attitude and character.
I won't date anyone ghetto or trashy. I won't date anyone with a slutty demeanor. I won't date a gold digger. I won't date anyone who thinks being pretty is all that matters. I won't date anyone infatuated with being a "bad bitch." I won't date anyone who thinks being a great twerker is an accomplishment. I won't be with any woman like that, regardless of their race.
I've dated women of various ethnicities. They all had one thing in common: they match the type of person I would want to be with long-term. My current girlfriend is black. Jamaican, to be exact. I can see myself marrying her one day, even if she falls into the same trap of thinking I'm destined to marry someone white.
Now, I don't deny that a number of Oreos tend to lean towards white women. The reasoning, especially in an urban city like mine, is simple: Oreos are concerned they aren't "black enough" for black females, but "white enough" to be accepted by white females that want to date someone black. I had the same fears. A few rides through public transport got me over it.
But no, dating white females isn't some exclusive thing with Oreos. It's a comfort-zone, but not the only zone.
Done and done. Next question please...
When it comes to dating and sex, being an Oreo means that a) people will naturally assume you only date white women, and b) white people feel comfortable approaching you about black sexual culture. This usually leads to annoying questions, like...
... Do you only date white women?
NO! That would be stupid. I would be missing out on so many wonderful people if I made a decision like this. I don't choose my friends based on race, and I would never do the same when it comes to the females I date. I'm an Oreo, not a Black Republican.
That's not a shot towards black republicans, by the way. I understand the reasons why people have political affiliations, regardless of race. It's all about protecting your own interests. But being in Atlanta, I find it funny that black republicans are only with a) white women, or b) female Oreos.
Being an Oreo isn't about maintaining a certain lifestyle. It's just about not being stereotypically black, not falling in line with the typical profile. I'm not an Oreo because I chose it. I'm an Oreo because of how I was raised and influenced. I don't date based on race. I date based on attitude and character.
I won't date anyone ghetto or trashy. I won't date anyone with a slutty demeanor. I won't date a gold digger. I won't date anyone who thinks being pretty is all that matters. I won't date anyone infatuated with being a "bad bitch." I won't date anyone who thinks being a great twerker is an accomplishment. I won't be with any woman like that, regardless of their race.
I've dated women of various ethnicities. They all had one thing in common: they match the type of person I would want to be with long-term. My current girlfriend is black. Jamaican, to be exact. I can see myself marrying her one day, even if she falls into the same trap of thinking I'm destined to marry someone white.
Now, I don't deny that a number of Oreos tend to lean towards white women. The reasoning, especially in an urban city like mine, is simple: Oreos are concerned they aren't "black enough" for black females, but "white enough" to be accepted by white females that want to date someone black. I had the same fears. A few rides through public transport got me over it.
But no, dating white females isn't some exclusive thing with Oreos. It's a comfort-zone, but not the only zone.
Done and done. Next question please...
11 years ago