Bondage Fetish

I have been wanting to try bondage for so long and I can't find a dominant. I don't want a violent dominant guy. Pain and shaming scares me. I also don't want to be in a cage eating out of a bowl. That a****l stuff scares me. I want to be tied up and stroked until tears come out of my eyes. I want a gag in my mouth. I want to be commanded to do things. I don't want some perv that is such in a rush to get himself off. I want a guy that takes his time. A tall, handsome man that makes me dress up for him and fucks me crazy in a dark alley.

I guess there is no hope because I can't find a proper, sane, dominant that knows what the hell he is doing..=/