SSC

Like I said in my last blog, BDSM is playtime. But what has to be done BEFORE playtime by resposible adults is what is the most important. Both parties must sit down and talk about what will happen during a scene. This is very important for the fact that noone should be hurt to the extreme and not having surprises on them. This is a very dangerous thing and should NEVER be done. That is why there is something called SSC. It is the BIBLE to all playtime scenes. If you have every seen (and i'm sure you have) the blue ball that is divides into 3 parts,these parts insures that the scene will go smooth and all parties will be able to enjoy themselves. Its called SSC and I will break it down in its simplest form. Safe: The Dominant(Domme) will insure that not only will there be a safe environment to be in, but mainly to ensure the sub/slaves saftey. There is no reason for the sub/slave to ever be in an usafe situation. Also when discussing BEFORE playtime, that a SAFE WORD be given. If the sub/slave is to be gagged, the a hand should be free so as to let her/him be abl to raise a thumb for instance so as to stop play immediately. Sane: Before a Dominant(Domme) goes into a scene, he or she must be clear of mind. No problems from the day should affect their judgement. There is no reason for the Dom (Domme) to be in a scene and then all of a sudden what happened that day at work that got him/her angry decides to take it out on the sub/slave. CONSENSUAL: BOTH parties MUST agree what is going to happen and when in a scene. It is discussed BEFORE playtime. Once agreed.. there will be NO change in the middle of a scene. "NONE" Someone could seriously get hurt.

Remember.. you both should have fun.. maybe push a limit or two.. but always pratice SSC.

One last note.. Know your Dom/Domme like you know the back of your hand!! When someone tells me. "oh im going to play with a Dom/Domme".. the one thing I ask them.. and ask yourself this question. If you are tied.. where are you going to run? If you are gagged..whos going to hear you? So basically.. youre screwed if they go off on you. So my main question is: Do you trust this person with your Life? *think about it*