Hand Job Tips
This advice is written such that it is good for both men and women who want to learn to improve their male partner masturbation techniques.
Many women are naturally nervous about handling their male partner's cock. They do not have one and rarely get a chance to be up close and personal to practice with one, so this will be useful.
Men - gay and bisexual - possess the equipment being discussed here and presumably know what exactly to do, but one can always learn something from someone who has been there and done that many times before.
For the purpose of these instructions - we will assume that a 'cut' or circumsized penis is involved for simplicity sake.
How to Give the Perfect Hand Job (with acknowledgement to Brooks Peters)
Sex means more than intercourse; exploring all the different variations enhances your sex life and keeps it from getting stale. Masturbating - giving your partner a "hand job" - can be very exciting for both of you. So, read on and learn how to let your fingers do the walking.
Male masturbation can be a thrilling experience, but first, we need to study the basics of manual technique.
The first concern is always a matter of size. Is it large or small? Somewhere in between? No issue has ever received greater attention than the size of a man's penis.
Man's obsession with cock size is probably a mental vestige of his primitive primate past, but as far as human sexuality is concerned, it's a waste of time. A large penis doesn't have any effect on a woman's physical enjoyment unless she has a deep-seated psychological attachment to well-endowed men. And a huge cock, isn't all that attractive to someone who enjoys manually stroking it or orally pleasing it: there is just too much to handle so to speak. A nice 'fist full' or mouthful is what the great majority of men possess.
But on either end of the spectrum are the LARGE and the small. Both have their attractions. A large cock can be double-fisted and, while it will need more lubricant generally, it is fun to lather up and stroke. A small penis can be just as much fun as an average sized simply because stroking it and making it ejaculate gives its owner as much fun as any sized cock.
The main thing is not to draw attention to size. Take it for what it is and have fun with a focus on pleasing your partner by treating it right.
How about its shape? Or thickness? Is it curved like a boomerang or is it straight like an arrow? Does your fist fit around the spongy mass of the shaft? Does your hand completely engulf it? This is good because you can squeeze it all at once. But don't be an organ grinder. Be gentle, yet firm. If the penis has an unusual girth, your hand may not completely encircle it. In such cases, try both hands to insure you don't miss any of the tender areas while stroking.
Explore every square inch of his genital surface area. A man loves to have his penis worshiped, played with, tickled, fondled, massaged. Let him know that you are not afraid, ashamed or disgusted - that you clearly admire his organ and want to 'make love' to it manually.
Don't start stroking or jerking quite yet. Just feel the fullness of it all. Let your fingers run from the balls to the top of the cock head (glans) , swirl around there, then slide back down the shaft and end back down at the balls. The movements should be swift and smooth, without bumping or stalling.
Now you're ready for some stepped-up action, but you don't want to suddenly lapse into a series of pumpings, whackings, jackings and jerkings. Tease the more sensitive areas of the penis.
These include: the glans (the tip of the penis which resembles a small mushroom) and corona (the little collar of skin just under the glans), and the shaft itself including the tender part of the bottom side of his penis.
Bring your palm up to the top of the glans and park it there flat out, fingers held together and stiff, thumb pointed straight out.
Spin it around as if you were trying desperately to remove the tight lid of a jar.
Your man will be groaning in delicious agony. The glans is super sensitive and this motion will bring him exquisite pleasure. He might grimace and cry out, and probably try to push your hand away, but he loves every second of it.
After you've done this for a while, slip your hand down his testicles and ever-so-gently grab them in your fingers, softly tugging them down away from his shaft. If they are big and bulky, like Grade AA eggs, bounce them up and down a couple of times in your hand. Tell him how heavy they feel, how sexy they are. Whatever you do, don't squeeze them! This could put a real damper on your lovemaking for the rest of the day. You might notice that one of his nuts hangs lower than the other. This is perfectly normal. Once you feel comfortable with the way his balls feel in your hand, gently roll them up the underside of his shaft. Depending on their size and the amount of room in the scrotum, they will most likely reach to half way of his penis.
He will like the way this feels.
Now, let go of his testicles and bring your fingers together in a fistlike formation. Very lightly, begin to stroke his erection with your fingers, running them all over his sensitive shaft and balls. You may wish to slip the pocket of your fist handhold over the tip of his penis, letting it rest there for a few seconds.
Pre-cum: a lot of fun!
About this time, the penis will probably start to emit its natural lubricant.
Pre-seminal (pre-cum) fluid is nature's way of moistening the canal of the urethra so that the spermatozoa can swim more easily out of it; it also lubricates the head of the penis.
A circumcised penis leaks this lubricant from the peehole and can keep the glans/head very moist and slick for intercourse. Use the juice to lubricate the shaft particularly the underside of the glans in that triangular spot. This will drive your partner crazy.
Sometimes, the musky smell of precum can be an aromatic aphrodisiac for you both. Take advantage of this natural aroma. Smell it yourself and bring your hand up to your partner's nose and encourage him to breath it in.
And, since guys are so visual, taking a dollop of pre-cum on your fingertip and dramatically licking it off in full view of him will send a charge up his spine. Likewise, standing his dick straight up and in his line of sight, taking your tongue and giving the peehole a quick lick dabbing up a drop of pre-cum will have a similar impact.
Still - this IS a hand job so don't go all oral and forget yourself. These are just icing on the cake so to speak as your main objective is to manually (with your hand) bring your partner off.
If there is little or no pre-cum, don't be concerned. It is not a requirement, not all guys have it or it doesn't always appear at exactly the same time.
In any case a good lubricant will work just as well and it is an important part of this process. A 'dry' penis can eventually get sort of numb from being rubbed and stroked. It requires some slippery stuff to keep the stroking and manipulation fresh.
Add a drop of moisturizing lotion to the shaft and gently rub it in. Alexandra Penney, in her book, "How to Make Love to a Man", is very keen on massaging the lotion between one's hands before putting it on the penis because sometimes the cream is cold and the palm-rubbing warms it up.
Other lubricants like baby-oil or 'sex lubricants' sold at sex toy stores are really good. A good choice is edible massage oil for obvious reasons. Not only can you lubricate your partner's cock but you can lick and suck on a cock lubricated with edible oil to heighten your partner's pleasure.
If your partner doesn't seem to have a very firm erection, try using a cinnamon-based ointment which you can find at your local sex novelty store or acquire through a mail catalog. The slight burning sensation often causes the penis to become rock-hard.
Adding a little dab to the testicles also helps.
K-Y offers a product that has a self-warming element to it. These are excellent to utilize and good for your hands!
If you really want to do a number on him, slip a dollop of Ben-Gay on his balls and watch him go through the roof.
One of the secrets of great manual sex is varying your hand motions. Variety is the spice of life, and doing the same movement over and over can be annoying and boring at best. Here are a few indispensable techniques:
SWITCH HITTER
Use both hands, alternating back and forth in a pattern you develop to offer him the most arousal. He will notice the difference. Don't get into a routine where the strokes are dull, and noncommittal. Give it to him good. Get him to the pointwhere he's singing out, "I second that hand motion!"
DOUBLE WHAMMY
How about going double or nothing! Bring both well-lubricated hands down on his shaft. Some cocks are so big they require both hands. If your partner's doesn't, then use the other hand to caress and lightly flutter his balls, or tighten around the base of his shaft. If both hands fit along the length of the shaft, move then together, up and down, in the typical pumping motion.
Pretend you're holding a baseball bat and are about to score a grand slam. You can also vary the directions of your hands, one up, one down at the same time. There's no doubt that two hands are better than one.
THE ANVIL STROKE
Bring one hand down, letting it stroke the penis from the top all the way to the bottom. When it hits the bottom, release it.
Meanwhile you're bringing your corresponding hand down to the top of the shaft, creating an alternating beating motion, hence the name "anvil stroke." Think of those blacksmith duos who keep up a double beat pounding motion as they beat that rod of iron on a piping-hot anvil.
THE SHUTTLE COCK
Not many people have heard of the "shuttle cock," but it's one of the best. Take the penis in both hands, fingers lightly touching the sides of the shaft. In order to visualize the position, think of yourself holding a clarinet. Now flick the penis back and forth between your two hands by holding on to the loose skin of the shaft. Shuttling it back and forth in this manner may not seem incredibly thrilling to him at first, but pretty soon, as it builds up momentum, it will drive him out of his mind. Orgasms encountered via this method are sometimes messy, but always memorable.
THE BOOKENDS
Place both of your hands side by side against his shaft like a pair of bookends. Now push hard against his penis. Then lift your hands up and down. Continue in this manner for a while.
The constant tugging of the skin around the balls and the mons pubis will do the trick.
THE FLAME
Place your hands down on either side, your fingers pointing away from the cock. Pretend you're a campfire girl and start spinning his pecker like a stick of wood. This way you'll keep the home fires burning for a long time to come.
THE BASE CLUTCH
Tighten your thumb and forefinger around the base of the shaft, pressing down on the balls. This will cut off the blood (acting as an impromptu cock ring) and help you steady the shaft in your hand. If the skin on it is slick and immutable, you can stroke the penis with more friction, thereby enhancing the excruciating experience.
THE LOVE TUG
As you are stroking him, lightly pull on the whispy strands of pubic hair sprouting from his testicles. Don't pull so hard that you remove them, but tease them gently, lovingly. This will make him holler with delight and awe at your inventiveness.
THE TWO-TIMER
Tickle his balls with one hand while the other jerks him up and down.
THE THIGH-SWATTER
Use the hand that is currently unemployed to firmly but lovingly pat his inner thighs.
BEST FIST FORWARD
Place your fist against his perineum as you're stroking him. He'll probably start opening his legs a little wider, giving you more space to press against. Guaranteed to drive him wild.
As always, it is the psychological impact of what you are doing that makes the sex so satisfying. Let your mind escape into the uncharted wilderness of fantasy. As a sexual pioneer, it is your manifest destiny to explore the outer limits of your sensuality.
In sum, anything goes. Don't hesitate to give the cock a lick or suck on it a bit in-between your manipulations. Move around and stroke it with your feet. Rub it against your chest and nipples. All these visual and sensual elements will have a very positive and arousing effect.
When you success in bringing your partner to orgasm, as soon as cum is ejaculated, try and capture some and smother it over the cock as you pump it out as long as your partner indicates he needs pumping. Nothing pleases a man more than seeing his partner not hesitate to take his love juice to rub on his cock. Some people think of cum as 'dirty' - it is just the opposite: it is white, warm and, once you try it, quite tasty and very pleasant to the touch. A natural lubricant in fact.
Some guys get extremely sensitive around the cock head at this point or right after ejaculation,. Be sensitive to this as you don't want to cause him pain right after all that profound pleasure. Stick to pumping the shaft up and down if the glans is too sensitive to touch.
Many women are naturally nervous about handling their male partner's cock. They do not have one and rarely get a chance to be up close and personal to practice with one, so this will be useful.
Men - gay and bisexual - possess the equipment being discussed here and presumably know what exactly to do, but one can always learn something from someone who has been there and done that many times before.
For the purpose of these instructions - we will assume that a 'cut' or circumsized penis is involved for simplicity sake.
How to Give the Perfect Hand Job (with acknowledgement to Brooks Peters)
Sex means more than intercourse; exploring all the different variations enhances your sex life and keeps it from getting stale. Masturbating - giving your partner a "hand job" - can be very exciting for both of you. So, read on and learn how to let your fingers do the walking.
Male masturbation can be a thrilling experience, but first, we need to study the basics of manual technique.
The first concern is always a matter of size. Is it large or small? Somewhere in between? No issue has ever received greater attention than the size of a man's penis.
Man's obsession with cock size is probably a mental vestige of his primitive primate past, but as far as human sexuality is concerned, it's a waste of time. A large penis doesn't have any effect on a woman's physical enjoyment unless she has a deep-seated psychological attachment to well-endowed men. And a huge cock, isn't all that attractive to someone who enjoys manually stroking it or orally pleasing it: there is just too much to handle so to speak. A nice 'fist full' or mouthful is what the great majority of men possess.
But on either end of the spectrum are the LARGE and the small. Both have their attractions. A large cock can be double-fisted and, while it will need more lubricant generally, it is fun to lather up and stroke. A small penis can be just as much fun as an average sized simply because stroking it and making it ejaculate gives its owner as much fun as any sized cock.
The main thing is not to draw attention to size. Take it for what it is and have fun with a focus on pleasing your partner by treating it right.
How about its shape? Or thickness? Is it curved like a boomerang or is it straight like an arrow? Does your fist fit around the spongy mass of the shaft? Does your hand completely engulf it? This is good because you can squeeze it all at once. But don't be an organ grinder. Be gentle, yet firm. If the penis has an unusual girth, your hand may not completely encircle it. In such cases, try both hands to insure you don't miss any of the tender areas while stroking.
Explore every square inch of his genital surface area. A man loves to have his penis worshiped, played with, tickled, fondled, massaged. Let him know that you are not afraid, ashamed or disgusted - that you clearly admire his organ and want to 'make love' to it manually.
Don't start stroking or jerking quite yet. Just feel the fullness of it all. Let your fingers run from the balls to the top of the cock head (glans) , swirl around there, then slide back down the shaft and end back down at the balls. The movements should be swift and smooth, without bumping or stalling.
Now you're ready for some stepped-up action, but you don't want to suddenly lapse into a series of pumpings, whackings, jackings and jerkings. Tease the more sensitive areas of the penis.
These include: the glans (the tip of the penis which resembles a small mushroom) and corona (the little collar of skin just under the glans), and the shaft itself including the tender part of the bottom side of his penis.
Bring your palm up to the top of the glans and park it there flat out, fingers held together and stiff, thumb pointed straight out.
Spin it around as if you were trying desperately to remove the tight lid of a jar.
Your man will be groaning in delicious agony. The glans is super sensitive and this motion will bring him exquisite pleasure. He might grimace and cry out, and probably try to push your hand away, but he loves every second of it.
After you've done this for a while, slip your hand down his testicles and ever-so-gently grab them in your fingers, softly tugging them down away from his shaft. If they are big and bulky, like Grade AA eggs, bounce them up and down a couple of times in your hand. Tell him how heavy they feel, how sexy they are. Whatever you do, don't squeeze them! This could put a real damper on your lovemaking for the rest of the day. You might notice that one of his nuts hangs lower than the other. This is perfectly normal. Once you feel comfortable with the way his balls feel in your hand, gently roll them up the underside of his shaft. Depending on their size and the amount of room in the scrotum, they will most likely reach to half way of his penis.
He will like the way this feels.
Now, let go of his testicles and bring your fingers together in a fistlike formation. Very lightly, begin to stroke his erection with your fingers, running them all over his sensitive shaft and balls. You may wish to slip the pocket of your fist handhold over the tip of his penis, letting it rest there for a few seconds.
Pre-cum: a lot of fun!
About this time, the penis will probably start to emit its natural lubricant.
Pre-seminal (pre-cum) fluid is nature's way of moistening the canal of the urethra so that the spermatozoa can swim more easily out of it; it also lubricates the head of the penis.
A circumcised penis leaks this lubricant from the peehole and can keep the glans/head very moist and slick for intercourse. Use the juice to lubricate the shaft particularly the underside of the glans in that triangular spot. This will drive your partner crazy.
Sometimes, the musky smell of precum can be an aromatic aphrodisiac for you both. Take advantage of this natural aroma. Smell it yourself and bring your hand up to your partner's nose and encourage him to breath it in.
And, since guys are so visual, taking a dollop of pre-cum on your fingertip and dramatically licking it off in full view of him will send a charge up his spine. Likewise, standing his dick straight up and in his line of sight, taking your tongue and giving the peehole a quick lick dabbing up a drop of pre-cum will have a similar impact.
Still - this IS a hand job so don't go all oral and forget yourself. These are just icing on the cake so to speak as your main objective is to manually (with your hand) bring your partner off.
If there is little or no pre-cum, don't be concerned. It is not a requirement, not all guys have it or it doesn't always appear at exactly the same time.
In any case a good lubricant will work just as well and it is an important part of this process. A 'dry' penis can eventually get sort of numb from being rubbed and stroked. It requires some slippery stuff to keep the stroking and manipulation fresh.
Add a drop of moisturizing lotion to the shaft and gently rub it in. Alexandra Penney, in her book, "How to Make Love to a Man", is very keen on massaging the lotion between one's hands before putting it on the penis because sometimes the cream is cold and the palm-rubbing warms it up.
Other lubricants like baby-oil or 'sex lubricants' sold at sex toy stores are really good. A good choice is edible massage oil for obvious reasons. Not only can you lubricate your partner's cock but you can lick and suck on a cock lubricated with edible oil to heighten your partner's pleasure.
If your partner doesn't seem to have a very firm erection, try using a cinnamon-based ointment which you can find at your local sex novelty store or acquire through a mail catalog. The slight burning sensation often causes the penis to become rock-hard.
Adding a little dab to the testicles also helps.
K-Y offers a product that has a self-warming element to it. These are excellent to utilize and good for your hands!
If you really want to do a number on him, slip a dollop of Ben-Gay on his balls and watch him go through the roof.
One of the secrets of great manual sex is varying your hand motions. Variety is the spice of life, and doing the same movement over and over can be annoying and boring at best. Here are a few indispensable techniques:
SWITCH HITTER
Use both hands, alternating back and forth in a pattern you develop to offer him the most arousal. He will notice the difference. Don't get into a routine where the strokes are dull, and noncommittal. Give it to him good. Get him to the pointwhere he's singing out, "I second that hand motion!"
DOUBLE WHAMMY
How about going double or nothing! Bring both well-lubricated hands down on his shaft. Some cocks are so big they require both hands. If your partner's doesn't, then use the other hand to caress and lightly flutter his balls, or tighten around the base of his shaft. If both hands fit along the length of the shaft, move then together, up and down, in the typical pumping motion.
Pretend you're holding a baseball bat and are about to score a grand slam. You can also vary the directions of your hands, one up, one down at the same time. There's no doubt that two hands are better than one.
THE ANVIL STROKE
Bring one hand down, letting it stroke the penis from the top all the way to the bottom. When it hits the bottom, release it.
Meanwhile you're bringing your corresponding hand down to the top of the shaft, creating an alternating beating motion, hence the name "anvil stroke." Think of those blacksmith duos who keep up a double beat pounding motion as they beat that rod of iron on a piping-hot anvil.
THE SHUTTLE COCK
Not many people have heard of the "shuttle cock," but it's one of the best. Take the penis in both hands, fingers lightly touching the sides of the shaft. In order to visualize the position, think of yourself holding a clarinet. Now flick the penis back and forth between your two hands by holding on to the loose skin of the shaft. Shuttling it back and forth in this manner may not seem incredibly thrilling to him at first, but pretty soon, as it builds up momentum, it will drive him out of his mind. Orgasms encountered via this method are sometimes messy, but always memorable.
THE BOOKENDS
Place both of your hands side by side against his shaft like a pair of bookends. Now push hard against his penis. Then lift your hands up and down. Continue in this manner for a while.
The constant tugging of the skin around the balls and the mons pubis will do the trick.
THE FLAME
Place your hands down on either side, your fingers pointing away from the cock. Pretend you're a campfire girl and start spinning his pecker like a stick of wood. This way you'll keep the home fires burning for a long time to come.
THE BASE CLUTCH
Tighten your thumb and forefinger around the base of the shaft, pressing down on the balls. This will cut off the blood (acting as an impromptu cock ring) and help you steady the shaft in your hand. If the skin on it is slick and immutable, you can stroke the penis with more friction, thereby enhancing the excruciating experience.
THE LOVE TUG
As you are stroking him, lightly pull on the whispy strands of pubic hair sprouting from his testicles. Don't pull so hard that you remove them, but tease them gently, lovingly. This will make him holler with delight and awe at your inventiveness.
THE TWO-TIMER
Tickle his balls with one hand while the other jerks him up and down.
THE THIGH-SWATTER
Use the hand that is currently unemployed to firmly but lovingly pat his inner thighs.
BEST FIST FORWARD
Place your fist against his perineum as you're stroking him. He'll probably start opening his legs a little wider, giving you more space to press against. Guaranteed to drive him wild.
As always, it is the psychological impact of what you are doing that makes the sex so satisfying. Let your mind escape into the uncharted wilderness of fantasy. As a sexual pioneer, it is your manifest destiny to explore the outer limits of your sensuality.
In sum, anything goes. Don't hesitate to give the cock a lick or suck on it a bit in-between your manipulations. Move around and stroke it with your feet. Rub it against your chest and nipples. All these visual and sensual elements will have a very positive and arousing effect.
When you success in bringing your partner to orgasm, as soon as cum is ejaculated, try and capture some and smother it over the cock as you pump it out as long as your partner indicates he needs pumping. Nothing pleases a man more than seeing his partner not hesitate to take his love juice to rub on his cock. Some people think of cum as 'dirty' - it is just the opposite: it is white, warm and, once you try it, quite tasty and very pleasant to the touch. A natural lubricant in fact.
Some guys get extremely sensitive around the cock head at this point or right after ejaculation,. Be sensitive to this as you don't want to cause him pain right after all that profound pleasure. Stick to pumping the shaft up and down if the glans is too sensitive to touch.
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