Musings From Within the Meat Grindr
meeting men from the world wide web is a convenience afforded to us in this dystopian future so be mindful of all the surcharges that can come with the joy of being as free as all the birds and the honey-bees.
i have compiled a few examples or obstacles you might encounter while seeking out a fuck session.
?authenticity-- guys might present an idealized version of themselves, possibly misrepresent their overall vibes and that can cause some misunderstandings. don't panic, just make sure you clarify if you're a submissive into degradation or if maybe your just visiting the fuck-dungeon because it seemed really fucking sexy and hedonistic in that rfc production. clear communication is a luxury and more often than not, a privilege.
?safety concerns-- our community can be brutal often and especially gifted with scrutiny. be yourself, maintain your identity and values and admit to yourself "hey, this dude might want to murder me." or to a less threatening but still ptsd-inducing hazing that we all probably deserved.
?in the flesh-- in the classic disney animation the little mermaid the villainess and icon ursala muses on the importance of body language and depending on what you are seeking out from like-minded men lurking the internet be sure to be considerate in your interactions. some examples might include: any sort of questions about who you live with, where you work, if you do drugs or it might be that yr guest is seemingly unaware of the how much time he has spent in the bathroom.
ghosting-- hey, man, the internet is full of spectres and entitiies and even human beings with a myriad of reasons why they might vanish abruptly or, hey, maybe he's some sort of time-traveling jerk-off and got lost in an alternate dimension. ulitimately, it's not your fault, try not to feel too bothered and also it might just be some evil genius cat-fishing you because you are a reminder and symbolic catch-all of all his insecurities and failures. again, do not to be bothered, stud. be aggressive. b-e subversive.
?great expectations-- it can be a difficult thing, y'know, having all these plans and ideals set up only to realize half-way through this rather intimate and hopefully self-indulgent shame-free moment with whoever, tha,t yeah, maybe this really wasn't what you were craving or wanting at all. ...and i'm going to say it because i don't hear it very much myself. it is one of those basic rights as a human being. it is perfectly reasonable to have a change of heart or if you are feeling uncomfortable. experiences vary with each individual, so maybe your not the power-top suitable for every occasion. remain collected and maybe reevaluate or ask yourself why you feel like that at all in sexy situation?
?okay, okay, so, let's try not to get wrapped up in all those internalized and romanticized ideals from heterocentric/heteronormative narratives for a bit. okay. cool. all those social constructs and isms and stuff. all gone. for a bit. we talked a lot about interacting with others, very good, yes, but, in my experience it was usually the confidence in knowing what i needed or wanted that seemed to make it so much fucking better. so essentially a neccesary skill involved in meeting men lurking the booths of social media would be a very well-developed and aware sense of self.
the gay male community is diverse with individuals who have also developed their own approaches to casual sex and fucking and hooking up. if you happen to find one or several guys that you enjoy fucking remember to get tested and stay aware of your status.
“There is no happiness like that of being loved by your fellow creatures, and feeling that your presence is an addition to their comfort.” -charlotte bronte
i have compiled a few examples or obstacles you might encounter while seeking out a fuck session.
?authenticity-- guys might present an idealized version of themselves, possibly misrepresent their overall vibes and that can cause some misunderstandings. don't panic, just make sure you clarify if you're a submissive into degradation or if maybe your just visiting the fuck-dungeon because it seemed really fucking sexy and hedonistic in that rfc production. clear communication is a luxury and more often than not, a privilege.
?safety concerns-- our community can be brutal often and especially gifted with scrutiny. be yourself, maintain your identity and values and admit to yourself "hey, this dude might want to murder me." or to a less threatening but still ptsd-inducing hazing that we all probably deserved.
?in the flesh-- in the classic disney animation the little mermaid the villainess and icon ursala muses on the importance of body language and depending on what you are seeking out from like-minded men lurking the internet be sure to be considerate in your interactions. some examples might include: any sort of questions about who you live with, where you work, if you do drugs or it might be that yr guest is seemingly unaware of the how much time he has spent in the bathroom.
ghosting-- hey, man, the internet is full of spectres and entitiies and even human beings with a myriad of reasons why they might vanish abruptly or, hey, maybe he's some sort of time-traveling jerk-off and got lost in an alternate dimension. ulitimately, it's not your fault, try not to feel too bothered and also it might just be some evil genius cat-fishing you because you are a reminder and symbolic catch-all of all his insecurities and failures. again, do not to be bothered, stud. be aggressive. b-e subversive.
?great expectations-- it can be a difficult thing, y'know, having all these plans and ideals set up only to realize half-way through this rather intimate and hopefully self-indulgent shame-free moment with whoever, tha,t yeah, maybe this really wasn't what you were craving or wanting at all. ...and i'm going to say it because i don't hear it very much myself. it is one of those basic rights as a human being. it is perfectly reasonable to have a change of heart or if you are feeling uncomfortable. experiences vary with each individual, so maybe your not the power-top suitable for every occasion. remain collected and maybe reevaluate or ask yourself why you feel like that at all in sexy situation?
?okay, okay, so, let's try not to get wrapped up in all those internalized and romanticized ideals from heterocentric/heteronormative narratives for a bit. okay. cool. all those social constructs and isms and stuff. all gone. for a bit. we talked a lot about interacting with others, very good, yes, but, in my experience it was usually the confidence in knowing what i needed or wanted that seemed to make it so much fucking better. so essentially a neccesary skill involved in meeting men lurking the booths of social media would be a very well-developed and aware sense of self.
the gay male community is diverse with individuals who have also developed their own approaches to casual sex and fucking and hooking up. if you happen to find one or several guys that you enjoy fucking remember to get tested and stay aware of your status.
“There is no happiness like that of being loved by your fellow creatures, and feeling that your presence is an addition to their comfort.” -charlotte bronte
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