Rough Rough
Sex isnāt always a gentle, kissy-kissy, hand-holdy, flowers in meadows, magical soft focus, lovey dovey thing. Sometimes sex is hard and intense. A lot of people have, what is called, rough sex. Some some studies are showing that itās pretty common with young people. So this article is about what rough sex is and why people might like it (or do it). Itās also about how we can do it with more consent and safety.
The kinds of things that researchers talk about when they refer to rough sex are:
Slapping.
Gripping (holding someone firmly or pinning them down).
Spitting.
Choking (which should actually be called strangling, as thatās more accurate).
Hair pulling.
Biting.
Gagging (restricting someoneās breathing with something in or over the mouth).
There are other things too but this is the kind of thing that we are talking about generally.
Just as with any other kind of sex consent and care is the absolute key. If thereās little or no care or consent, these things are acts of v******e and criminal offences. Doing these things without consent is also unethical, wrong, or immoral, however you want to call it.
If youāve read my recent kink article you will see that there is a bit of overlap between what is rough and what is kink. As I say in that article, kink is about doing these things with a lot of intention and in a scene. With a start, middle and end, where there is some element of power exchange. Iāll get to this later, but rough sex could be seen to be somewhere between kink and vanilla sex.
Please read my guide to relationships, itās really useful!
The kinds of things that researchers talk about when they refer to rough sex are:
Slapping.
Gripping (holding someone firmly or pinning them down).
Spitting.
Choking (which should actually be called strangling, as thatās more accurate).
Hair pulling.
Biting.
Gagging (restricting someoneās breathing with something in or over the mouth).
There are other things too but this is the kind of thing that we are talking about generally.
Just as with any other kind of sex consent and care is the absolute key. If thereās little or no care or consent, these things are acts of v******e and criminal offences. Doing these things without consent is also unethical, wrong, or immoral, however you want to call it.
If youāve read my recent kink article you will see that there is a bit of overlap between what is rough and what is kink. As I say in that article, kink is about doing these things with a lot of intention and in a scene. With a start, middle and end, where there is some element of power exchange. Iāll get to this later, but rough sex could be seen to be somewhere between kink and vanilla sex.
Please read my guide to relationships, itās really useful!
2 years ago