How was your day, Honey? (from Games we play)

“I met a man today, Darling, and when I first saw him, I made the decision to do whatever he asked of me.” What response would this statement get if it were uttered at the end of a work day by a wife to her husband?

The first time I had sex with another man without Michael being present, I called Michael for his opinion and he suggested that I do it. He wisely knew that if I had gone to the trouble of asking, it was something I wanted to do. In that instance, it was to get together with two men, one of whom I had been with previously in Michael’s presence. It was an easy way to open up the new game of “How was your day?”

From that moment, I knew that it would be fun for both of us to know that, on any given day, I might have an ex parte sexual encounter which Michael would only find out about if he were to ask how I spent my day or if I chose to drop hints about my exploit.

The opportunity to have casual sex with strange men is there for any woman should she want it. Most women have turned off their “sexual radar” and are the male intentions that surround them or they categorize them as meaningless flirtations (which they are not!) and ignore them. If you don’t believe me, act interested in the next man you meet in public who who acts exceptionally nice to you or is bold enough to flirt. It will only take a few seconds to see that, given permission, his intentions are real and he will act upon them..

The fact is that you are never more than a few miles from a motel room where you can play out your fantasy with him and arrive home later with an erotic tale that your husband will never be able to forget.

“How was your day?”

“You’ll never guess what I did in a motel room with a stranger I met today, my love!”

Often, this game is drawn out over several days or even weeks. “I keep seeing his guy at work who has been giving me looks” can become “He spoke to me today and he has the sexiest voice” which can develop into “I really want to fuck him, Honey” and then “He asked if I was married and I told him not to let that stop him from whatever he has in mind!” It can lead to “Guess whether or not he used a condom the second time he fucked me today?”

Whether a woman has actually experienced these exchanges or they have been invented to spice up the pillow talk she enjoys with her husband, the suspense as to what will happen next can become excruciatingly sexy and very stimulating for both the woman and her husband leading to very passionate sex and the desire to develop the story further.

At some point, pillow talk may turn to a real-life experience which doesn’t mean that the fantasy games come to an end. As I’ve said many times, the build-up to an encounter with another man or the sexual high of the aftermath is as much a part of the pleasure as the actual sex act and the what-ifs and might-have-beens that I discuss with Michael are pure fantasy and moments of intimacy that I treasure. Never have I had such sharing with any other man.