Just do it

We know that some swingers have a problem consummating fantasies. They can't get past the talking about it. My advice is don't get all hairy about the details, over plan, and have some script that fills your head with expectations. Just let it happen or arrange the fantasy for your spouse. Don't go and get permission or you'll be talking each other out of it or coming up with excuses that cover what will never happen. Once you have shared a fantasy that's enough. There is a lot of excitement in getting surprised. And erotic if it is a sexual surprise.

Here is a perfect example: We had made a date for sex with each other. I got dressed up and we met in the guestroom. We went to eating on each other in 69 and when I couldn't take it any longer I had him stick it in me. We were talking nasty and he was wily and asked me if I liked fucking on strange cocks. Yes! We talked about what we wanted to do the next time I had one. During the heat of screwing he agreed that I was going to fuck bare and he could watch the cock cum in me. What does he do? He stops screwing me just before I get off. And he tells me he has someone I don't know waiting in the bathroom to fuck me.

Yeah right. I didn't believe him. He kept saying come on in Jack. I was sure he was joking and went to vibe my clit. I needed some cums. And surprise, this guy comes on in! Oh yeah I fucked him. He came in a minute or so. I loved it. Other than cumming so fast, it was a rush. I did give him a chance another time. He was a nice guy and he was over stimulated. I can't image what was going through his mind outside that door, stroking his dick and wondering if I'd freak out when he came in.

This wasn't the first time a fucked a complete stranger, but not within a few seconds notice and without the expectation that I was going to do it. We do this for each other. We share something and the other makes it happen. No reservations needed.